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Step 1
The first step is to pretend that he or she is listening to you with both love and understanding. You have to have this faith. This is the reason you are with them in the first place.
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Step 2
Start with anger, then expressing sadness, describing your fears, regrets, and finally all of your love. Include all five of these feelings in your letter. Do not make one feeling more important when writing this. A few sentences each is a healthy way to start.
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Step 3
Regardless of how angry you might be, this letter has to end with a message of love. Be patient and let it out.
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Step 4
And the partner receiving the letter must agree to not respond in anger, but rather be open to hearing the pain their partner has felt and work with him or her to communicate about these issues honestly. I know this is hard to count on..
Our positive feelings of love can overcome any negative feelings we have at a particular moment. The act of writing and then communicating your feelings can create a deeper understanding and trust in your relationship provided you allow the love you feel to help guide you through this process.
Comments
powerkat said
on 12/9/2009 I could even apply this step process to a serious dating relationship. I see this working well. 5*.
scorpioswan said
on 7/6/2009 Very positive, well-thought out points. Thanks! 5 stars.
sluna75 said
on 6/25/2009 LOL-- I have left my husband a 5 page letter before, just letting it all out. It worked really well. 5 stars
edieness said
on 6/24/2009 Note passing in ur home with your spouse. What a cute idea. 5*