How to Tell Just HOW Crazy the Woman is Whom You're Dating

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Tell Just HOW Crazy the Woman is Whom You're Dating

Equally as often as women are attracted to the "bad boy", men are attracted to the crazy girl, and perhaps with equally disastrous results. Women like the bad boy partly because a thrilling scare triggers a similar chemical response to sexual arousal, and men like crazy women because they don't necessarily control themselves.

However, as Seinfeld points out regarding the existence of both "good naked" and "bad naked", there is "good crazy" and "bad crazy", a little crazy, and a lot crazy. In this article you'll learn to give yourself a fighting chance to sort the sportingly crazy women from the terrifyingly crazy women.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

A touch of madness yourself

Step 1

Emotional "issues": ascertain whether the exotic one you've recently started seeing is a temper tantrum thrower or not.

In the first place, just in general you probably don't want a tantrum queen, sane or crazy. More importantly, if she's already throwing tantrums this soon, it could indicate what is sometimes called an "emotional hemophiliac" - a woman who once she feels slighted will not stop "bleeding" until you're soaked in her figurative blood too. This is one hallmark of borderline personality disorder, which is all fun and games until someone gets hurt, and a "scene" could happen as soon as you ring her doorbell instead of knocking. This is a woman who potentially could draw real blood, and a woman to be avoided. If she doesn't seem to be a temper tantrum thrower, continue to Step 2.
Step 2

General ethics: figure out the extent to which she's narcissistic.

Narcissism isn't just about the woman who preens in the mirror; it's about a lack of empathy. A great way to figure this out from the get-go is to watch how she treats her children, if she has them. If she neglects or otherwise mistreats her children, you don't stand a chance of decent treatment yourself. In that first rush of a relationship, it may be tempting to enjoy her putting her children off in order to paw at you all day long, but this could be a sign of her selfishness rather than of any unique feelings for you. The more you see her manipulating things to her whims, and not considering the effects on others, the more you can be sure that you'll soon find yourself on the short end of the stick too. The more she plots and schemes (is diabolical) her hedonism, the higher she is on the crazy scale. If she's merely spontaneous and engages in victimless crimes from time to time - perhaps risking sex outdoors or sneaking a bottle of schnapps into a ball game, then she's more good crazy than bad crazy. In the former case, dump her. In the latter case, you may continue to Step 3.
Step 3

Sexual ethics: determine whether she's just fun or if she has no scruples whatsoever.

Now it's time to talk about naked stuff. If you met her while she was twirling her shirt over her head on the sidewalk - great! But is this a mere annual hobby or is it just the tip of the iceberg? For example, while you're in the bathroom, does she suggest a threesome to your best friend, brother, or dad? It's probably better if she suggests it while you're present! Does she like sex so rough that she relishes marks on her body (or yours)? If "yes" is the answer to these sorts of questions, she's not necessarily an immediate dump, she's just playing in a gray area, and it's up to you as to whether you want to dump her or proceed to Step 4.
Step 4

Figure out if she's more personality disorder crazy or more affective disorder crazy.

This is complicated and takes a longer time to do than the other steps, unless she just comes right out and tells you (which is more common nowadays than it used to be). Please see Resources below for links. We've probably already eliminated a lot of bad personality disorder women by now because this shows up quite a bit in the first two steps. Personality disorders are marked by long-standing maladaptive and inflexible traits, but some personality disorders (the more avoidant types) are not so destructive as those that are aggressively antisocial.

Affective disorders, i.e. mood disorders, can exist in women of the highest quality, and they may even enhance intrigue. If a woman has bipolar disorder, she can swing from grandiosity, sociability, and a relentless sex drive (which might include the milkman), all the way down to barely speaking or moving at all for weeks on end. This is not even to mention potential psychosis at either extreme. Each woman will vary, as will each man dealing with her. The main thing that makes affective disorders more endurable than personality disorders in women is that they're problems of mood and temporary conduct rather than problems of overall character.

But you still have to ask yourself some questions. Do you care about her enough to work through the extreme spells? Is she in treatment? How is your life being affected? Mood disorders to me partake more of good crazy than bad crazy, but they're also quite a challenge that you can choose to accept or to decline.

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on 11/20/2009 Your writing never disappoints, and your article, How to Tell Just HOW Crazy the Woman is Whom You're Dating, is complex, intriguing (probably like the women you like to date since you're flirting w danger!) and really excellent! Thanks! 5*