How to Help Your Child Cope With Death

Children, like adults, have all sorts of reactions and feelings when someone or something they love dies. Teaching them to communicate their feelings and say goodbye to the relationship that has ended is our responsibility as parents, mentors and educators.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Photos of deceased loved one Age-appropriate books offering explanation of death Journal or pen and paper to write down memories of deceased person or pet and what will be missed about this person or relationship.

1. Children of any age benefit from having a familiar routine. The same mealtime, bedtime, tasks or chores help a child feel secure and in control.

2. Recognize that this is a special time in a child's life. He or she may need more affection and may depend on you even more. Allow that to happen. A child may request something out of the norm, such as to sleep with you, a special blanket or a hug.

3. There is no right or wrong way to feel or react in the event of a death. Nor is there a magical amount of time which states a child should be recovered. Allow your child to mourn and participate with him or her in that process.

4. Be open for discussion with your child. Listen, listen, listen!

Tips & Warnings

• Know when to seek professional help. Extended periods of depression, continued loss of interest in normal activities, inability to sleep or to be alone and continued loss of appetite are all signals to consult with a professional. Other signs may include denying that a family member has died, excessive imitation of the deceased, talk about joining the deceased family member, withdrawal from friends or a drop in school performance or attendance. Talk with your doctor for a referral.

References

• feelings
• mourn