How to Have a Happy Marriage When You're Busy Parenting

To have a happy marriage and long lasting love life while raising kids you will need to have a strong solid union with your partner.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

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   Solid Union
   
   It is important to have healthy communication, to be able to express yourself and to feel heard and most of all understood. Workout disagreements by compromising, be flexible, trust worthy, caring and loving towards each other. Along with so much more genuine acceptance, respect, and friendship towards each other. The kids will blossom in return in such a healthy loving environment if there is constructive criticism instead of tearing down each other over financial difficulties, stress, nitpicking, etc..

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   The Jewels of Life
   
   Admiring one another for what one has done that is worth while. By looking at the little things each other does and showing appreciation for those things. Acceptance and understanding are so important.
   
   Remember that whatever in life that is worth having takes time, patience, nurturing, and working at: in order for it to remain fresh, active, and good.

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   Pick Your Battles
   
   Think about it...is what you are upset about going to matter tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year, or in the years to come? Is it really that important to get upset about? Think twice before nagging, complaining, or rat and raving about dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Instead have a weekly or monthly house-hold meeting where everyone discusses their feeling and what they would like to see different in the household, etc.. That way everyone gets their feelings out in the open and gets to express their thoughts, ideas and emotions in a healthy fashion during the families 'Goal Making Time.'
   
   Statistical Reports state that 1/3 of all divorces end during the child's first five years of life. In addition, 50 percent of marriage end in divorce. Which often times leaves the child/ren with the belief that they were to blame for the failure of the marriage. 40 percent of American children grow up without having their father in their life.

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   Appreciation
   
   Showing appreciation for each other and taking time out to be alone together makes all the difference. Be proud of what each other accomplishes, compliment each other even for the small things he / she does for you or for the kids. If you see something brave, encouraging, a good deed, or anything that you would general think in your mind...instead say it. You look very nice in that shirt honey. Or something like, I just love the way you are calm and patient with the child/ren. If it is in your mind and is a kind word say it. Let the other person know how you feel. What you are thinking when it is kind, excepting, and loving thoughts.

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   Adults Weekend Get Away
   
   Try for every quarter of the year to get away for the weekend; just you and your partner. That is the only way to keep a relationship going strong is if you both taking time out for the both of you to spend some time alone. Sex is a big part of marriage. 40 percent of suffer from a loss of libido. A normal sex life is estimated as a couple having sex two to three times a week. Take time out to hug each other, back rubs, foot rubs and romantic moments together. Candle light evenings when you can. Take a shower together or romantic time in the bathtub. Spice up your love life and keep it active and interesting. Statistic reports state that 20 percent of men have an affair. 70 percent of victims of infidelity were females. So ladies/ gentlemen if you want to keep your lover interested sexually than keep him / her interested. Remember happy healthy relationships take effort on both individuals part to maintain a happy, healthy and loving union. That hopefully lasts forever....

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   Stability
   
   Even when there is a knew addition to the family it is important not to absent mindedly ignore your partner. Instead try to include him / her in on the decision making, responsibilities, and activities with the bouncing bundle of joy. Same goes for adoptions as well of humans or pets into the household. It might take a couple months for everything to settle back down and a routine to form. Just remember to acknowledge, show love, and be thankful for all members of the family. By appreciating each and everyone of them. It could even be small things they do or something big. It is important that the family unite is all apart of the knew addition of the family and everyone feels loved and excepted.

[annvans]

on 6/21/2009 Great tips!