How to Bond With Your Teenager

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Bond With Your Teenager

Some teenagers are so busy being cool and playing with their electronic toys that sometimes it is hard to bond with them. As a mother and teenager age together it may be important to be an active part of the teen' s life or to find fun stuff for teens.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Step 1

First tell the teenager no computer, cell phones or ipods for a few hours. They may detest the suggestion, but if this is the only way to get their attention then it likely it should be done.
Step 2

Do not let the teenager lock themselves in their bedrooms. I recall being a teen and my favorite place to be was in my bedroom. It was my place to hang out, listen to music and just think and be. Do not band the bedroom, I am speaking of only the moments that you want to bond with your teen.
Step 3

Finally make an effort to interact with your teenager. If you can not think of fun stuff for teens, then take a walk. Walking may be a great way to converse with another person. If your teen is not into just walking for the sake of walking then have a destination. It most likely doesn't matter where you are going just as long as you take the moment to chat it up with your teen.
Step 4

Ask your teenager for advice on something you know they think they are an expert in. A few examples of this would be asking them how do they like your hair? Do you think my make-up looks good? I want to buy a cool CD, I want to be your hip mother, got any suggestions? Take the teen with you to purchase the new CD. You may not want the CD or even like the music they suggested, but you can buy the CD, bring it home and hopefully count on your teen to swipe it anyway. Remember bonding with your son or daughter may mean focusing on fun stuff for teens.
Step 5

Go to the book store. My daughter loves Barnes and Noble. She also loves books. I often wonder if she is older than me just by the way that she acts sometimes. Because of this I allow my teenager to drink coffee at the bookstore, she digs that.
Step 6

You might over hear your teen telling a friend, 'hey I gotta go my mom wants to do that BOND thing again'. So what if she is saying whatever to whoever. The point is that you are making an effort to be a part of your teenager' s life and that is what should count.

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joycetmann said

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on 7/2/2009 A digg for how to bond with your teenager. 5*

karileighk said

on 6/28/2009 Very helpful tips in bonding with your teen. *5

waters said

on 6/22/2009 Great information on how to bond with your teenager.

cadence said

on 6/20/2009 I agree that you can tell your teenager no phone, no computer, etc. But if you can, tell your teenager in advance that you need some time and let him or her choose that time. That way, you won't be seen as intrusive, and the teenager will not be as hesitant to spend the time with you.