How to Really Tell That He's Just Not That Into You

I am wanting back the hour and a half I approximately spend each and everyday having this conversation with all of my single friends. So, I figured I could wrap it all up in a pretty little package, the same things I say everyday. Take the guess work out of dating, if you really want to know how into you he actually is, here are some guidelines to be followed.

Things You'll Need

• Confidence
• Self Esteem
• Your Pride

Instructions

1. This one is really the key. This is it, the X factor. So much so in fact I almost wanted to make it the last step, only because I could really end this whole article right here. But just for kicks, we'll continue. However, rule #1: If he doesn't call you.....at all!! He's really not that into you. Maybe your date went great, maybe there were 'sparks' and stars falling, and the moon moving and all of that, but if three or four days later, you've dropped your cell phone in the toilet at least twice because you refuse to set it down for even a second, you've almost killed yourself in the shower trying to get to it only to discover it's your mom calling, and you've called your best friend over 500 times just to test the dial tone....and HE still hasn't called- I'll help you out on this one-he's not going to.

2. If you send him a text message, or a cute Xoxoxox email, and hours maybe even a day later he still hasn't responded, or he waits hours or a day later to respond: You are an afterthought. He's really not that into you. Fact: When a man really wants to be with you, if you text him during surgery, he will respond. If he doesn't, he has other things occupying his time and attention.

3. If he does call you, but it's at 11:00pm or later, umm....need I spell this one out for you. Unless his job is closing down the Taco Bell drive thru and this is when he gets off work, any and all after 10pm calls can be taken for exactly what they are and I wouldn't be doodling your name with his last name any time soon.

4. This one is tricky, and most men might even argue this one out with me, even still I know it to be true: If he calls you "cool" "cute" or "hot" before the 2nd date and more times than he calls you by name: He's not that into you. If you are "cool" it means he's already pegged you as being understanding and accepting of all the devious or otherwise not forth coming things he's about to do on an ongoing basis. If you're "cute" well...you'll just always play 2nd to the one he's calling "hot" and if you're "hot" ...yep, you guessed it.

5. If at anytime during conversations or even if you've been dating a while, you hear the phrase "I'm no good at relationships" or anything to its effect: don't wait this one out. You are not that 'special someone' whose going to completely turn him around! What he's telling you is, he has no intention on ever being in one, at least not with you, so any time you spend together is simply in the mean time.

6. This one almost goes along with the 'him not calling you' scenario and yet it deserves it's own place: If you have been talking to a guy, and then days and weeks go by before he out of the blue calls you again, and especially when this happens repeatedly!! He is simply bored. He calls you when he is lonely and bored and already knows you'll fill the gap. He's really not that into to you.

7. I hate adding this one, simply because it is so 'high school' and well, tacky that I want to leave it out. But it must be said: If he attempts anything, and I do mean ANYTHING (even simple things) other than a kiss on your first date: I promise, he really is not that into you. If he saw the potential of anything meaningful coming out of the relationship, he wouldn't even try on the first date, if he does he's already viewed this one with one single agenda in mind.

8. This is another tricky one: But if he interrupts you often, or changes the topic completely to something more 'self satisfying' or if he in no way reacts to the story you are telling: He's not listening because he is thinking of something else completely because.....he's really not that into you. Another Fact: When a guy REALLY likes you, they record & memorize important details like a playboy bunnies phone number! Granted it's usually to be used to their benefit later, but they do it because they really like you and want to impress you by remembering your favorite flower, or the song you turned up in the car, or that Easter is your favorite holiday? If they don't, they know they will have no use for any of this information later, so they tune it out completely.

Tips & Warnings

• Approach each encounter with someone as an experience, please remove yourself from the "soul mate" mentality that states every single person we have dinner with has to be lined up against some true love scenario we have playing in our minds. A date can simply be just that: a date. Meeting someone new. Go into it without any real expectations other than having a great time.

• Any text messages that exceed 5 and have not been returned, any phone calls using a blocked number exceeding 2 in a day, or any 'passing by' where they work, hang out or live.....is considered stalking!!!