Things You'll Need:
- An open mind
- Sex toys
- Good communication skills
- The willingness to experiment
- A willing partner
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Step 1
First and foremost, talk with your partner. Relationships are partnerships and the decision to use adult toys to enhance your sexual experiences. Either partner may be skeptical, but both must agree to use the toy. Also, just because you both agree to try to use toys, doesn't necessarily mean either partner is totally comfortable with the idea. This is where good communication skills come into play. Talk each other through the experience. Ask each other what feels good and what does not. Like the old saying goes, "If it feels good, do it." If it doesn't, try something different.
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Step 2
As a couple, decide what type of toy you would like to experiment with and then get it. There are many places to get adult toys. If you don't get embarrassed easily, you can go into any adult book store or toy shop, where you will find a variety of toys to choose from. However, if you're like me, that added embarrassment would just take away from the experience. Luckily for people like me, there are hundreds of Online stores, such as Adam & Eve, where you can purchase your toys discreetly.
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Step 3
Remember to start off slow, the old saying about learning to walk before you run is very important in the world of couples using adult toys. Start off with something simple, like a plain vibrator and scented/flavored oils. Neither partner should be intimidated by the toy, doing so will put a damper on any further experimentation. Once you both become comfortable with the vibrator, you can start to use other, more exotic toys.
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Step 4
Always use plenty of lubrication. Sex toys are made of plastic and can cause unpleasant friction. Injury to either partner's 'happy places' totally defeats the purpose of using the toy in the first place. Also, be gentle at first, even if either partner likes it a little rough. Get accustomed to the toy before you decide to put on the gas.
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Step 5
Finally, be patient with one another. As mentioned earlier, either partner may not be completely comfortable with using the toy even though they agreed to try it. It might take them a little while to become comfortable with it. Also, as you experiment with different toys, keep your lines of communication open so you can decide which toys are right for you as a couple and which ones aren't. Just remember that sharing the experience together can cultivate feelings of trust and intensify your relationship both in and out of the bedroom.
