How to Meet a Girl at a Party
You see the girl of your dreams across the room, but leave the party without even finding out her name. Meeting a girl at a party can be difficult for all men--from the body builder to the Average Joe. There's hope for you yet, in time for the next party. It might seem surprising, but girls are attracted to confidence in men, more than anything else. Even if you aren't really confident, you can seem confident when you meet a girl. Does this Spark an idea?
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Spruce up before going to the party. Groom your nails (women always look at hands), wear a cologne you like, and you might experiment with the latest fashion (See Additional Resources Below)--but make sure you're comfortable with how you look. Walk into the party with confidence, even if you don't feel it. Reflect confidence to the girls at the party by not slouching, holding your head at chin-height and by making brief eye-contact around the room.
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Mingle with the other party goers, instead of hiding in a corner, standing at the bar or chatting with a small circle of friends. Socialize with the other party goers, move around the room and let yourself have short conversations. It helps you relax in the atmosphere and makes you appear open to introductions.
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Look around the room. If you see a girl at the party that you'd like to meet, ask about her, discreetly, to find out if she's single. Try catching her eye casually several times. Don't stare or wait too long to speak to her. Another guy at the party might meet her first. If she glances back at you, get ready to introduce yourself.
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Approach her easily without rushing. Make sure it's slow and natural. Offer your hand when you get close enough, but leave a comfort zone of space. Look her in the eye, smile and ask her for her name. Introduce yourself.
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Start a conversation with her about something simple, like whether she's enjoying the party or not. Don't use a pick up line or a joke, keep it short and natural to the setting of the party. If she asks you a question back, continue making small talk. If she doesn't ask you a question, don't panic. Ask another ice-breaker, and make sure it's not a 'yes' or 'no' question, but an open question (See Additional Resources Below).
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Wait for her to ask you a question, or to say something else to ease the tension. If she doesn't seem to respond, leave her politely and look for another girl at the party you'd like to meet. If she does, ask her questions about herself and build up to a natural conversation. Keep steady eye-contact while talking to her.
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Tips & Warnings
Wait for a comfortable moment in the conversation, and ask her for a way to contact her if you'd like to see her again. Don't put it off until one of you is leaving because it can be awkward.
Don't use foul language when you're talking to her, it still shows disrespect.
