How to Cope With a Bipolar Spouse

Bipolar depression is one of the most difficult diseases with which to cope. Mood swings, confusion and illness are all a part of the disease. It is extremely difficult to cope with a spouse who has this disease. It is a hard adjustment being married to someone who changes so quickly and often. Nonetheless, there are many ways to make a marriage work when your spouse has bipolar depression.

Instructions

1. Be understanding. Someone who has bipolar depression will often say things she does not mean, out of anger. The anger may be inspired by something as simple as not hanging up your towel after a shower. The most significant aspect of bipolar disorder is mood swings. To be supportive of your spouse, you must understand that it is the illness, and not him, saying mean and hurtful things or acting bizarrely.

2. Educate yourself. It is important to understand what the illness is and how it makes a person act. Bipolar disorder occurs on different levels, and understanding its symptoms and effects will help you support your spouse. It will also give you peace of mind on bad days. Talk with your spouse's therapist, who can give you pamphlets and/or professional insight. You can also join a local support group, or one online.

3. Attend some therapy sessions with your spouse. It is crucial that he see a therapist by himself for his illness, but there are times when you can sit in. A therapist can help you and your spouse understand the disease and what triggers it. Also pursue your own therapy, so you have someone to talk to who understands the disease.

4. Talk to family and friends. They may not judge, and many will understand what you are going through, or at least provide a listening ear. It is important to talk about your concerns and not let them bottle up.

5. Be supportive of your spouse. Support is the best way to cope with bipolar depression. Be there for her to talk about therapy sessions, or about anything that may be bothering her. Help her take her medication. Any way you can show that you are there for her, no matter what, will help deal with the disease. Even in hard times, when she wants to sleep instead of helping around the house, do not try to push her. It can be frustrating, but patience is key. On "good days" you can always ask for help, but never start an argument.

6. Understand that bipolar disorder is a 24/7 disease. It never goes away. Take some time each day to get away for a while, or at least each week. Give yourself a break from the disease and do something you enjoy. Get a manicure, go for a walk--do anything to take your mind off your spouse's disease.