Things You'll Need:
- Internet research
- Support of loved ones
- Spiritual faith helps too
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Step 1
First, know the signs to watch out for. People who are abusers may be jealous, controlling, very critical, have an extremely bad temper, and may come from a family with a history of abuse. Abusers tend to be very insecure and try to compensate by being macho and 'manly' and can be domineering and controlling of women.
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Step 2
Abusers are often charming and attentive at the beginning but there may be signs of a problem if the abuser will not respect your space and does not want any time away from you. This may be due to extreme jealousy and obsession, and a tendency to be controlling. Abusers also will make fun of and argue with their partners, putting them down publicly and privately.
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Step 3
In an abusive relationship, everything becomes controlled by one partner. Watch out for someone who doesn't want you to spend time with friends or family and who seems "needy" or to always demand your attention. Isolation will allow the abuse to get worse, enabling the abuser.
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Step 4
If your partner exhibits any of these signs of emotional abuse, or if your partner physically hurts you in any way, it is time to get help. Please see the links below for the YWCA and their free counseling programs, as well as the national Domestic Violence Hotline. Also seek help from family, friends, counselors or spiritual advisors. It will not be easy, but if you are in an abusive relationship, things will only get worse.
Comments
grimsleygl said
on 6/9/2009 Excellent advise! Great article and well written. 5*'s
kristara said
on 6/7/2009 Excellent advice for a dangerous situation.
2besure said
on 6/6/2009 There is so much of this happening behind closed doors. Great article!
PhiMcRee said
on 6/5/2009 Very useful article. Thanks for sharing. Hubby used to pull security at an abused women's shelter to keep the abusers away. So sad.
cherry67 said
on 6/5/2009 good advice