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Step 1
Be honest with your spouse. If he is seeking a divorce because of dishonest or infidelity, now is the time to completely come clean. If he suspects you are still lying to him, he will not likely be willing to stop the divorce. Show him that you have changed and want to start with a fresh slate.
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Step 2
Acknowledge the issues in your marriage. Your spouse filed for divorce for a reason. Don't try to pretend that everything is fine. Instead, identify the specific aspects of your relationship that are unhealthy.
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Step 3
Get specific. Name concrete ways that you have mistreated or neglected her. By getting specific, you show her that you have put thought into your relationship and how to improve it. Don't settle for vague generalizations.
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Step 4
Take it slow. In order for your spouse to file for divorce, your marriage seriously deteriorated. Don't try to get things back to normal instantly. It will take time to rebuilt your relationship. Give your spouse the space she needs. Take her out on weekly dates and get to know each other again.
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Step 5
Seek counseling. It's often invaluable to have professional help as you work through your marital issues. Tell your spouse that you are willing to attend counseling with him to work through your issues.
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Step 6
Contact a lawyer in your state about halting the divorce process. Once your spouse has agreed to give your marriage another try, you must take legal steps to stop the divorce proceedings. In some cases, if your spouse doesn't follow through on the needed paperwork, the divorce proceedings will be stopped. In other instances, your spouse may need to file a motion to dismiss the divorce filing. A lawyer will be able to assess your particular situation and advise you on the appropriate course of action.
