How to Accept Your Marriage Partner and Forget About Divorce

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Accept Your Marriage Partner and Forget About Divorce

Divorce can be avoided if married couples learn the value of accepting each other—every strength and flaw. When two persons decided to tie the knot together, they oftentimes carry with them high expectations about their partner. Later, they realize that these assumptions are not real. The idea that they married the wrong person then surfaced and next thing they want to do is get out of the relationship as fast as they could instead of finding ways to make it better. A lot of us fall in love very fast and think that accepting our partner comes quick as a lightning. Acceptance is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. And the good part is, it can be achieved. The following steps offer instructions how to accept your marriage partner and live a happier life.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Love towards your partner
Commitment
Humility

Step 1

Stop changing your mate according to your liking. This is the most important step of all. Constantly trying to change your partner the way you want him/her to be does not only make the person defensive, it will also cause a perpetual strain in your relationship. Allow your partner the freedom to express and change himself by his own will and in his own time. Offer encouragement but don’t be pushy. When you free your mind from controlling the outcome, you open a space in your heart and mind to accept your spouse the way he/she is.
Step 2

Shift your focus on your partner’s good qualities (inner or outer). Simply changing your perspective will bring beneficial results. It is much easier to accept something when your mind is filled with good things. When you find yourself unable to focus on your mate’s positive side because you are currently angry, hurt, disappointed, or frustrated, take a break. Then come back later and try again until you mastered it. The main point is to concentrate on the good to overcome the bad to make the acceptance easier.
Step 3

Be more forgiving towards your spouse. None of us is perfect. This is what makes everyone of us interesting and unique. By opening your heart and letting go of any dislikes and grudges you may have against him/her (and doing this every time), you are taking a step of reconciliation with him/her and yourself. This opens up more room of acceptance for your partner.
Step 4

Show more love to your mate. Sometimes all you need is more love to be more loving and accepting towards your partner. Love covers all wrongs and makes all things bearable and possible. Remember that the reason you married your spouse is because you love him/her. Now remind yourself that if you can love your mate, accepting him/her is also within your reach. You just have to act.
Step 5

Give yourself time to go through the process of accepting the one you married. Every person has a different time frame when it comes to this part. Allow yourself to progress at your own pace. When frustrations set in, find something to do to take your mind off but never give up. The best thing you can do is pray about it and ask for strength to enable you to move forward and honor your commitment.

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each1teach1 said

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on 11/19/2009 Interesting article with great advice. I enjoyed reading it. 5 stars

jenroering said

on 11/4/2009 This is a wonderful article, absolutely these tips could save a marriage.

fvf871 said

on 11/2/2009 This is very helpful advice that many of us should take!

Jolocol said

on 8/30/2009 This is an excellent, well-written article that can be useful to those struggling and a reminder to those who are not struggling at this time. Your points are well organized and the message is great!