Things You'll Need:
- Ability to man up!
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Step 1
As any good dating coach will tell you, knowing when to take things more physical is a crucial step in taking things from platonic to romantic. Many people would tell you, "Just be yourself and it will happen." This is wrong. Many people out there miss great opportunities every day with beautiful women they would have otherwise connected with. Your ability to take things physical will save you so much time and frustration. If you are one of those guys who sits around waiting for the woman to make the first move then you need to keep reading.
While some women will make the first move, it is rare. Despite how progressive society has come in the last 50 years, there are still some gender specific roles that play out every single day, especially in the dating world. A good dating coach would tell you that to be good with women you must master the art of taking things physical. -
Step 2
Knowing when....
The key to taking things physical is knowing when to make your move. Most taking coaches will tell you that the earlier you can take things physical, even in the most formal sense, the easier it will be to escalate things later. The longer you wait to introduce physical touch, the harder it is to do later.
So many movies paint this completely unrealistic view of how things go in the dating world. You see this nerveous chump who awkwardly sits in his seat on the date, mumbles during coversation and can't hold eye contact. After the date (which he hasn't touched her ONE time) he walks her to her door and then they finally have a romantic kiss.
Ask a dating coach if this is how it usually goes and he will laugh. Most of the time physical touch has to be slowly introduced in increasing increments over the night. This is for you and the woman. If you try to make a bold move at the end of the night you will likely make her extremely uncomfortable. However, if you slowly escalate things over the course of the evening or a couple of evenings, you will be able to tell if she is receptive to bigger and bigger moves or if she would be more comfortable with you slowing things down. -
Step 3
Knowing how...
As most of my dating coach friends will tell you, the key to escalation is to do it on high notes and to start with small short touches. You want to escalate on a gradient. This means you will start with very formal touch. Formal touch is usually the way you might touch a coworker. You can then progress to playful touch, maybe high 5's or using physical humor.
Make sure that you do not stare at the area you are touching. This is awkward. It sub communicates that you are asking permission, you are nervous, and you aren't sure if it's ok. A good dating coach would tell you that if you act nervous, it will make the woman nervous.
Also, make sure that you make your moves in small steps and use the principle of 2 steps forward and 1 step back. Just because she let you hold her hand doesn't mean that you need to go for the kiss. You can go from holding hands back down to formal touch, back down to not touching, and then back up to holding hands.
Just remember, that no matter what you have heard or read, you MUST escalate physically or you will fall into the friend zone. Just take it slow and make sure you are aware of her comfort level.
