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Step 1
Notice If You Have Been Communicating Less Often
When a relationship first begins, you are in constant contact with each other. Be it phone calls, text messages, or emails. It seemed that anytime something happened, you couldn't wait to tell the other person about it. Lately however, you find that not only do you not bother taking the time to contact them, you actually go out of your way to avoid their calls. You come up with excuses about being too busy or involved with something else, or you even roll your eyes when you see it is them calling.
This is one of the bigger signs that you are ready to call it quits. -
Step 2
Decide if You Suddenly Find Everything They Do Is Annoying To You
Once upon a time, you thought many of the things they did were "cute" or "quirky". Now you find them just plain annoying. You find it harder and harder to bite your tongue and may find quite often your anger is out of proportion with the situation. This is another good indicator that you've had enough. -
Step 3
Recognize If You Fight More Often
Where at the beginning of the relationship you were willing to compromise over most situations, you are now more stubborn than ever about getting your own way. You don't feel the need to put their feelings first, and you simply want to do what you want to do. You may even resent the fact that you have to argue about it at all. You storm out or hang up because you simply don't feel like dealing with it. -
Step 4
Pay Attention If You Fight More Viciously
Old arguments centered around the situation and the situation only. There were never personal insults thrown around and the fights would end fairly quickly. Now you can find yourself mad about an argument for days and simply don't care about making up. Or you find that insults come flying out of your mouth of their own volition. Suddenly, sparing the others persons' feelings is no longer a priority. -
Step 5
Beware If You Fight More Often Publicly
If you have been having screaming matches in public and could not care less who hears or sees them, this is another sign the relationship is just about done. It shows that you have lost respect for your partner and you do not care who knows it. -
Step 6
Notice If You Have Stopped Thinking and Planning For the Future
When a relationship is going strong it is natural to think about the future. Future marriage, future house, future children, future vacations, etc. When a relationship is in trouble though, you find that both of you rarely talk beyond the end of the week. You no longer daydream about all the wonderful possibilities that lie ahead, and find you are just doing your best to get through the days. -
Step 7
Realize That You Have No Urge to Put In Any Effort
Where at the beginning of the relationship you might have spent days or even weeks thinking about what to get them for their birthday or how you can make them feel special, now you find you can barely make the effort to get them a card. In the early stages you might have found yourself meeting them for lunch in the afternoons or going over to their place late at night not caring how little sleep you got. Now you find you would much rather sit home alone watching television or going to sleep early. You find going out of your way is just not worth the effort. -
Step 8
Consider The Fact That You Want More Independence
One upon a time you wanted to spend every waking moment with the other person, even to the point where you might have neglected friends and family. Now all you want to do is have some breathing space to enjoy your friends or family alone. You start to feel like you "have" to see other person out of obligation only and find yourself either working later hours or making other plans in order to avoid them. -
Step 9
Pay Attention If You Find Yourself Daydreaming About Being Single or Being In a Relationship with Someone Else
Another good indication that the relationship is over for good is when you start daydreaming often about being free or being with someone else. Normally when a relationship is going strong, those ideas do not even enter your mind, because you can't even imagine being without your significant other. Now you find your mind wandering to how great it would be to be single again, or you find yourself daydreaming about romantic scenarios with someone else. -
Step 10
Think About It If Sex Has Become More of a Chore To You Than A Pleasure
While it is not uncommon for the frequency of sex to decline as a relationship progresses, you know it is not a good thing when you find you are trying to avoid it all together. If at the beginning of the relationship it was all you did or thought about doing, and now you find that it either rarely even crosses your mind, or even worse, feels more like a chore you resent, it is definitely time to end the relationship. Once you have reached that point, it is extremely hard to turn back.
