How to Stop Betraying Yourself

It isn't easy to stop betraying yourself. But if your life is not going the way you think it should, then perhaps you have betrayed yourself for years. It takes some thinking about and analyzing your own behavior and the reaction of others before you even realize that you are doing it to yourself. That's because a lot of your behavior is hidden from yourself. It is a part of you that people from your friends, aquaintances, family, and people you meet every day in the course of your life, judge you on. Here are some tips to Stop Betraying Yourself:

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

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   Since you are the person closest to yourself and know your inner thoughts, you give yourself names that your friends and aquaintances know you by. Some examples are: "Gee, am I stupid, or what?" Oops! You just named yourself "Stupid".

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   Think of all the times you have named yourself in your lifetime. Well, gee, there is "stupid, dumb, forgetful, moron, fool, idiot, dumba$$, goofball, nut, nutcase, dolt, etc.

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   If you would like to come up in people's estimate, then it's time to turn the tables and point out your good points and establish them in your friends minds. That way they won't feel free to think of you as "stupid, idiot, nut, nutcase, etc.

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   Begin to reform your language in a positive manner. Say things like, "I was so smart to do......."(whatever) Compliment other people when they do smart things.

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   My Mercedes-Benz

   When my boyfriend is driving my Mercedes Benz slk230 black convertible and misses a car in a near collision, I don't say, "You idiot!", I say, "Good Driving!" Hopefully he will miss it the next time too, to keep my good opinion of him!

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   I discovered this character flaw a few years ago when I told my mom one evening I had some wine and was tired. Six months later she asked how my drinking problem was coming along?!! I have about 4 drinks a year but from the one comment to her, she thought I was drinking a lot!

7. You can betray yourself in so many ways like actions. This is how wives and spouses discover affairs. You betray yourself with unexpected or odd actions. Review your behavior and speech. You may think you are acting and talking normal but there may be something off like body language doesn't match, or hand movements that are nervous. Perhaps you are missing something.

8. Last, don't be too hard on yourself. None of us are perfect. Check yourself out, your language, your perceptions you are throwing out there and maybe change a little here and there and toward others, then relax. We all need little changes to make life easier on ourselves and others.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't announce major changes in yourself. You may not be able to keep up the pretense. Change in little ways. If you never wiped down the bathroom countertop, then start doing it. Think of little ways to make life better for everyone and yourself.
• If you hear something you disagree with and would always start an argument about, then stop and think if you could make your point better without destroying the sensitivity of the other person.
• Make people feel better when you leave them than when you first arrived.
• Don't beat yourself up mentally and still talk nice about yourself to others. The mind can hear your thoughts. Think and talk nice about yourself and others and the mind will go along with you. Life will begin to smooth out.

[scooter1]

on 9/28/2009 Excellent article and tips! 5* and a recommendation

[francisfour]

on 8/24/2009 Love this article and all the positive reinforcements in it. Thank you!!

[greatnews]

on 8/7/2009 Amen on the How to Stop Betraying Yourself! 5 *'s and a recommend, of course.

[primpunkin]

on 7/25/2009 Wonderful!

[Nephilian]

on 7/17/2009 Good article on how to stop betraying yuorself. We all tend to give ourselves names without even realizing it.