Things You'll Need:
- An open mind
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Step 1
Realize that your situation is partly your fault, if you can't do that then stop reading and seek professional help. Relationships and marriages fail because the blame for problems is always shifted to the other person. Rarely do we take the blame for why a relationship is failing, its human nature to cast the blame on someone else!
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Step 2
Ask yourself if you really want to make things work, not just because of the years you invested or the fact you have a child. Those are important but won't keep you together in the long run. I am not saying to ask yourself if your compatible, meant for each other, attracted to each other or anything to do with "dreamy television relationships", I mean do you want to work things out?
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Step 3
Stop asking your spouse to get back together, stop complaining about why your relationship failed, stop whinnying! Stop saying how much you can change, if you need to change, then do it, and let them see the change. They are not interested in what you think you can do, they want to see what you can do!
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Step 4
Stop apologizing for why things failed, do start agreeing with them even if you don't, say things like "I understand" even if you don't. I am not condoning your lying to them, I am saying that resistance is futile at this stage! Agree with your spouse when they complain about you, don't throw anything back at them even if your dying to do so. Work on becoming their friend not their old spouse!
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Step 5
Last but not least, never and I mean never, tell them you LOVE THEM! You can let them know that you care about them, and that you want to know that they are alright, but leave it at that. DON'T SOUND DESPERATE!
