Things You'll Need:
- No pride holding you back
- Courage
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Step 1
Firstly you must know exactly what you did that hurt the person, and why you are sorry. For example, if I said something racially offensive to my friend, I would be sorry that I hurt them by offending their (my friend's) culture.
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Step 2
To make a truly effective apology, not only try to seek forgiveness, but also to cheer the person up whom you have hurt. To do this, know the qualities of the person and plan effective ways to cheer them up. For example, my friend is a big fan of the television show 'scrubs'. So to assist in my apology I would offer to watch the show with her.
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Step 3
Facing up to the person you hurt. Now it is time to bring it all together and apologize. Most commonly, you will approach the person, in person or over the phone; however the apology can also be made more effective by offering to meet up with them to make the apology more special. Once you have approached the person all you have to do is reveal your feelings and make a sincere and honest apology. For example, '(name of friend), I am really sorry for hurting you by (what you did to hurt them)and I know it was selfish/stupid (or both, most situations are caused by this believe it or not), but I want to make it up to you. How about we (cheering up activity)'. And there it is, hopefully a successful apology.
Comments
westernmom said
on 5/20/2009 Nice article. Part of an apology is to never repeat the offense. Thanks for sharing.