How to Let Him Know You're Into Him Without Coming On Too Strong

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Let Him Know You're Into Him Without Coming On Too Strong

Sometimes a subtle move here and there can be the sexiest thing a girl can do to get a guys attention. You don’t want him to think you’re desperate for attention. Instead you want to give him a little hint that you‘re into him, but still keep him wondering. Finding the right medium between being that girl that is coming on way too strong and that girl who never pays him a cent of attention is essential to letting him know you like him, and you're not crazy.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Step 1

If this is the first time you’ve met him, take the time to introduce yourself. You can start up an entire conversation with just, “I don’t guess we’ve met, I’m _____”. This is an easily sustainable conversation opener. You could continue with frivolous conversation just by asking him where he’s from, or if you’re from the same place, what year he graduated high school. This is a great way to let him know you’re interested in him without appearing hasty.
Step 2

If you’re hanging out with a crowd of friends and he happens to be here, simply include him in your conversation. If you’re talking about favorite restaurants, hometowns, whatever it may be, ask him about his. This will show him that you notice him without giving too much away.
Step 3

Don’t stare. Eye contact and a smile as you look away is great. Staring is an entirely different, not to mention creepy, thing.
Step 4

Compliment him, but keep it light. Don’t go into telling him how he has the most gorgeous body you’ve ever seen, that will incontestably come off as too strong. Instead, give a compliment, and add a question. “You have great arms, what do you do?” is perfectly acceptable, for example. This is also likely to strike up a little conversation.
Step 5

Don’t spend the whole night following him around. Being sociable is an attractive trait, and when he sees you having fun with other people he’s more likely to get the idea that you’re a fun girl to be around.
Step 6

Light teasing is great, and a discreet but fun way to flirt. Never be mean-spirited in your wise cracks though, or you’ll probably wind up getting little to no attention out of him. Just be sure to let him know that you don’t really dislike whatever it is that you’re teasing him about. For example, if you make a joke about the red sox cap he’s wearing, you can open up a whole conversation without seeming rude. Just be sure to do it with a smile!
Step 7

As the night winds down, once he’s had a chance to see you interacting with other people and enjoying yourself, now would be the best time for you to sit down next to him and strike up a conversation. Conversation starters are usually easy to find by this point; you could just bring up something that happened earlier in the evening, if you have a mutual friend ask him how long they’ve known each other, etc. There should be a million easy ice breakers at this point.
Step 8

Never leave without saying goodbye. If this was the first time you met, tell him it was nice to meet him. Now would also be a perfect time to throw in a light tease about something funny he may have done earlier that night, or simply just tell him you hope to see him around again. By this point he should have an idea that you’re into him and if he feels the same way will probably ask you for your number, etc.

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mrsjohnson said

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on 11/30/2009 I seem to come off rather strong sometimes due to the fact that I am REALLY not used to dating so I find it quite amusing to know that someone is attracted to me!