How to Stop a Bully at Work
Many people don't consider bullies to be a problem past junior high or high school. However, they exist everywhere and at every age. Bullies at work can be a real problem, making you want to avoid not only them but work in general. Below, you'll learn important steps to use when you are confronting a bully at work.
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Give the bully the benefit of the doubt. It's possible that he doesn't realize he's upsetting you so badly. Start by letting him know that you don't like his behavior and ask him politely to cut it out. Often, this makes a bully step back and take a look at the way he's been behaving. If you're not sure what to say, list the behaviors you don't like and how they made you feel. Then say, "Can you please stop these behaviors, because they make me extremely uncomfortable."
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Ask the bully a second time to stop the behavior if she does not respond the first time. Tell the bully that if the behavior continues, you will complain to someone higher up. Also, do not respond to the bait a bully throws out at you. She may do things to upset you or make you angry. Don't let her know that you're upset, and don't resort to hostile behavior, as this is exactly what the bully is looking for.
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Keep a record of incidents that happen between you and the bully, no matter how small or large. This is helpful as evidence. If you have any tangible evidence of the bullying, keep that as well. Speak to witnesses or others that are being bullied by the same person. This is a great way to strengthen your complaint when you get ready to make one.
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Complain to your superior and senior management. Make a formal complaint. Maintain your calm demeanor and professionalism while you convey what has been going on. Let managers know the steps you've taken to thwart the bully and show them any evidence or witnesses that can back up the things you're saying. Let the management know that you like your job but will not tolerate being made uncomfortable at your place of work.
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Speak to an attorney if management doesn't help you handle the issue or the bullying continues. It is not fair for you to live in fear or feel that your safety or quality of life is being compromised by this bully. Consultations with personal injury lawyers are typically free. The lawyer can advise you on what to do next.
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