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Step 1
Define the Relationship Again with the Ex:
It is essential to re-define your relationship with your ex for your children. They need to know where their parents stand and they need to know that both parents will be their allies. When you redefine the relationship in a healthy way, you are not only helping yourself over this hurdle, but you're helping your children as well. -
Step 2
Take Negative Thoughts Out of Your Mind:
No more "my life is over," or "I've lost everything" or "things are horrible." These are labels that strongly affect the way you feel. Your life is not over, it is just the beginning for you and your new life. Change the negative voices and phrases in your head to reflect positive thoughts. This will affect how you feel on a daily basis. -
Step 3
Discover Your Passions:
Find out what makes you get out of bed each day. Discover your passions and create goals for yourself to stay happy by doing the things that you love. Now is the time to foster your passions and get your authentic self back. Fostering your passions will also give you the opportunity to focus on something other than the divorce. -
Step 4
Get Out of Denial:
Don't let a fear of something make decisions for you. If being alone is scarier than staying in a broken marriage, then you're letting fear govern your life and your decisions. Dr. Phil says that you should ask yourself, "Are you mourning the loss of your marriage?" or "Are you mourning the loss of what you wanted your marriage to be?" -
Step 5
Be an Example for Your Children:
Show your children that life is worth living. Don't spend your time crying and looking over your shoulder - especially in front of your children. Be a good parent and teach them that trials may occur in life, but life will always move onto better things
