Things You'll Need:
- Just you
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Step 1
When you approach a beautiful woman you would like to start a conversation with you have several options.
The first option is what we at Love Systems call a "pre-opener." A pre opener is basically an easy conversation piece that you use before you get to a real opener. This class of openers is also known as "functional openers."
These openers are what we call "low risk and low reward." They will generate a conversation, but you will still have a lot of work to do in terms of building attraction.
Examples:
"Excuse me, do you know what time it is?"
"Can you tell me the cross streets of this bar?"
"What time does this place usually get good?" -
Step 2
The second class of openers is what we call an "opinion opener." These are basically questions that have built in conversation and maybe humor. The opener allows you to convey a little bit of personality and at the same time has several things she can jump in and talk about.
These openers are what we call "medium risk and medium reward." This means they can build some attraction, but you still have plenty of work to do.
Here is the organizing structure for creating your own opinion opener.
1. Hook Question (Short question that is easy for her to answer)
2. Allow her to answer
3. Root ("The reason I'm asking this is....")
4. Tease (Playfully tease her answers to start building attraction.
Example
Man: "Is it ok to breakup with someone over text message?"
Woman: "lol...No way thats horrible!"
Man: "Well the reason I'm asking is, my friend has been dating this girl for 2 months and she has become a stage 5 clinger. He tries to dump her in person but she always cries and he ends up feeling bad and staying."
Woman: (Makes comment)
Man: (Tease her answer) -
Step 3
The third class of opener that we teach is what we call a "direct opener." These openers are what we call "high risk and high reward." If the woman likes your approach than you will have tons of attraction, but if she doesn't than you have likely killed your chances with that woman.
With these openers you want to state your interest right up front in a calm warm tone of voice while smiling.
Examples:
"Excuse me, you are absolutely adorable and I'd kick myself if I didn't say hi."
"Hi, you are stunning, my name is Nick."
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Comments
sarij said
on 9/19/2009 Heather I agree. If a guy started asking these generic questions I would tag him as a player and move on. Give me a real man with a real intelligent conversation starts!
brandy1123 said
on 5/18/2009 just stopped by to rate
konakai said
on 5/14/2009 Hum..Good article to dredge up a good debate from the the opposite gender. Personally, I've always thought a good rule of thumb was to just be yourself, who ever that is. Either they like you, or they don't. 5* and recommend. Cheer's, Konakai
braddock said
on 5/13/2009 Riiiiiight....
heatherinks said
on 5/13/2009 If a man had to ask me if it was okay to break up with a woman over a text message, then I would think he was dumb and would not want to date someone who lacked class and manners. LOL I guess this is why so many men struggle and fail with talking to beautiful women.