Things You'll Need:
- Strap-on dildo
- Harness
- Water-based lubricant
- Condoms
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Step 1
Make sure that you are wearing the strap-on properly. The base of the dildo should press down against the top of the vagina, just below the pubic bone. If the dildo has testicles, they should press against the clitoris and may come down farther. Make sure that the harness is pulled tightly against you.
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Step 2
Take some time to become acquainted with your strap-on. Wearing it while masturbating can help you become more aroused during intercourse. Also, pushing it against your body, stroking it and playing with it will help you learn how it feels against your body when it is being moved. This can help you when you actually penetrate your partner.
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Step 3
Engage in foreplay or allow him to penetrate you so that he is aroused before penetrating your partner. You can perform oral sex on him while penetrating his anus with your fingers to help prepare him for penetration with the strap-on. Go slowly, starting with one finger and then gradually adding fingers after that. You can also do this while he is penetrating you in the missionary position.
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Step 4
Lubricate your partner's anus before penetrating him. This will help you penetrate him easily and comfortably. Use a water-based lubricant. Put a quarter-sized amount on two of your fingertips and insert them into his anus. You can also put a small amount of it onto the strap-on dildo. Also, you can use a lubricated condom on the dildo to help with comfort and ease of penetration.
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Step 5
Penetrate your partner once he is aroused and lubricated. Two positions are easiest. The first position involves him lying on his back with his legs on your shoulders. Hold the dildo at the base where it meets the harness. Then penetrate him slowly. The second position involves him resting on his hands and knees. You will be behind him either standing or kneeling. Once again, hold the dildo at the base and slowly penetrate him. He can also help you by guiding the strap-on into him.
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Step 6
Move the dildo in and out of him gradually while continuing to hold onto its base. As you get the feel for it you can let go of the base and increase in speed and force. You can also reach around and stroke your partner's penis while penetrating him. You partner may also find it pleasurable to masturbate while you penetrate him.
