How to Be a Great Wedding Guest

You just received an invitation to a friend's or family members wedding. Now what? Well, here's a quick list of good wedding guest etiquette to make you feel like a pro.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. RSVP - ASAP! - Don't wait until the last minute to RSVP. The bride and groom or whoever is paying for the event will need to know an exact head count. This saves them tons of money when paying for the caterer and food. Also, don't say yes then be a no show. If you must cancel, contact the couple immediately and let them know the reason.

2. Only those that are mentioned on the invite are the only people that should be going to the event. - If the invitation reads "Jane Smith & Guest" then it's ok to bring a guest. If the invitation does not mention "and family" or "and children", do not assume your kids are automatically invited. Many receptions are adult only or are for kids only in the immediate family of the couple.

3. If you're invited to the bridal shower, you should give a gift whether you go or not. - If you don't go, you can mail or have the gift mailed, give it to a family member of the couple or a member of the bridal party.

4. If you're attending the reception and there is alcohol present, drink responsibly. - This is a special day for the couple. They shouldn't have to take their attention off of each other because a guest is getting loud and crazy. They also shouldn't have to worry about anyone getting into an accident driving home.

5. Avoid wearing white or dressing too flashy. - White, off white and ivory is reserved for the bride. Also try to avoid wearing anything that you would normally wear for a night on the town. You shouldn't distract attention from the bride and groom.

6. Be on time. - You should arrive at the ceremony location about a 1/2 hour early to avoid walking in on important ceremony events. If you are running late, quietly seat yourself in the back after the entire procession goes down the aisle.

[marthareggie]

on 6/24/2009 These are great tips, especially to RSVP in a timely manner. I also believe in being on time, but the last 5 weddings I have attended, each started at least one hour late. Rating: 5*

[nnherrick]

on 5/24/2009 Great tips. Some people have no common courtesy when it comes to being a wedding guest.

[marielc]

on 5/12/2009 Those are some great tips. I heard about drunk guests ruining a perfectly good wedding.