How to Find Ways to Reconnect with Your Spouse
After being married for a while many people feel the need to reconnect with their spouse. Daily stresses and responsibilities often cause couples to grow apart or spend less time together. If you're feeling the need to reconnect with your spouse, your energy in this area will not be wasted. Some relationships will take longer to rejuvinate than others.
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Instructions
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Think back to what made you fall in love with this person in the first place. Go back to doing some of the things that you enjoyed doing together when you were first dating or married.
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Words matter. Determine not to yell or nag your spouse. Focus on words that encourage and affirm your spouse. Thank them for the little things they do. Make a list of what you like about them and tell them. Ideally you should both do this and share your lists, but if they won't write anything down, you take the first step.
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Enlist some help. Share with a friend or Pastor that you are going to be working on reconnecting with your spouse. They can encourage and pray for you and give you the support you may need.
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Start small. Start doing little things for your spouse if you're not doing them already. If your spouse likes gifts, then leave them small wrapped surprises at work. The gifts don't have to be expensive. If your spouse likes physical touch, give them a massage. If your spouse likes having things done for them, then look for ways to do something nice for them.
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Don't ask questions. Not much will squelch a relationship more than someone firing a bunch of questions at someone else. Share what happened to you during they day and make observations about what you see around you, but keep the questions to an absolute minimum. Eventually your spouse should open up to you when they know they will not be interrogated.
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Tips & Warnings
Watch the movie Fireproof together and use some of the extra resources if possible. This is a great movie about a rocky marriage and what one spouse did to make a difference.
