How to Apologize After a Argument
This of course means fighting with family, friends, or loved relationships. You should obviously avoid fights, but they happen. Sometimes in the heat of the moment we say things that are mean, hurtful, and they carry heavy consequences. Sometimes these people say mean and hurtful things back. So here's some tips to get back on their good side.
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Give a meaningful apology. Just simply saying I'm sorry won't always work. Sometimes apologizing comes from giving them an act of kindness. Like taking them to a movie, dinner, or buying them something special. This is if you were the wrong one in this fight, and are trying to make up for it. You can still do this if you feel both of you were the cause of this fight. An act of kindness helps a lot. Don't feel let your pride get in the way of giving them something nice like an apology. Something that's meaningful, and not fake. This might take some imagination, depending on the person.
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Have a meaningful conversation. Explain what happen, and get closure from this fight. Discuss what went wrong, what you were arguing about calmly. Get each others points across. I guess it's easy to just forget and move on, sometimes it's not that simple. Not getting closure, can allow the both of you to repeat this fight again. Try to get on the same page. Discuss in length, calmly, what happen and express your feelings and let them do the same. It will take two to tango, when making up in a fight. But you can at least set the proper tempo for the partner to follow along.
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Listen to what they have to say. Put yourself in their shoes on how they feel. Don't just think about what they did, or how you feel. Think about their feelings as well. That's only fair if you two are going to make up, and move on from this fight. Show your compassion to their needs as well. They'll appreciate it and try to see your point of view as well.
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Try to compromise. If the fight began on different wants or needs, a compromise is needed. Try to work it out, by compromising to both of your needs. It's not fair to just have it your way, and it's not fair just to have it this persons way as well. If this is why the fight happen, talk it out and try to reach a compromise both you and this person can settle upon. Something that both of you can view as reasonable. This step can be hard, depending on the person. Self centered ones don't always try to see it your way, too.
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Be calm and understanding. Don't result back to yelling, or a raised voice. Don't show frustration on what caused this fight. This just will counter them to overreact into anger again, and they themselves will not think things over with a clear head. Be very calm and patient.
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Let cool heads prevail. If this fight was recent, the person might need a bit of a cooling off period. Maybe should give them time to cool off, before deciding to engage with them. They'll relax and simmer down from their anger. Depending what caused it and how bad it was will vary how long. If it was minor, probably a few hours. If it was serious, maybe a few days or longer. You'll have to be the judge on that.
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Explain how much they mean to you. Fill them with compliments, and a heartfelt speech on their meaning to you. That you wouldn't get so mad, if they didn't mean so much to you. Maybe a hug, handshake, a good cry, or even a kiss after. Depends on the relationship with this person obviously. If it's two guys who are friends, I don't think your friend would expect a kiss.
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You should read this, cuz you really suck at it.
