How to Talk to a Girl Using AIM
Talking to a girl on AIM or any other instant message is tricky. If you're talking online, it could mean you don't know her well in real life or maybe haven't met. If you want to come across as someone worth her time, follow some simple rules.
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Instructions
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Tell the truth. It's possible that if you're talking to a girl on AIM, you will meet her in the future. It's in your best interests not to lie about your height, weight, income, age or anything else. Once you lie about these things that you can't change about yourself, you ruin the chances of this relationship progressing.
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Ask about her day without getting too personal. Show that you care about her daily life, but don't give her the idea that you're too pushy or prying for personal information. Ask her how school or work was but don't ask her where she works or what school she goes to. You'll violate her trust, and she'll think you're a creepy old man trying to track her down.
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Keep it positive. Don't use an online relationship with a girl as a dumping grounds for your emotional baggage. When you talk to a girl on AIM, the ultimate goal should be a real-life relationship. You shouldn't say things like, "I'm such a loser. That's why the only girls who will talk to me are online." All she knows about you are the words you write. Let those words represent all the good things about you.
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Take it to the next level. If things are looking up, plan to meet. When meeting someone from the Internet, always meet during daylight hours in a very public place, such as the food court at a mall. Bring a friend and insist that she does the same. This will be safer for both of you, and if you insist on these safeguards for your first meeting, she'll be more likely to trust you enough to go through with the meeting.
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Tips & Warnings
Avoid X-rated talk at all costs, even if she's the one who tries to start it. There are all kinds of programs out there trying to trick men into having X-rated talk with under-aged girls. Remember, even if you're a minor, it's illegal to send or receive explicit photos of a minor.
