Things You'll Need:
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Step 1
My article is dedicated to Jaheem Herrer who at age 11 Killed himself due to excessive bullying from his classmates. I pray that the family will go on to do something wonderful in the name of this young man who never got a chance to fulfill his dream. I pray this will be a wake up call for all of us.
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Step 2
Empower your children, they have the right to protect themselves totally and completely. There is no fight tolerance rule in my state, my rule however if a child hits you, then you fight back. If you get suspended that's ok Mom and Dad will deal with the schools. This turn the other cheek and walk away is bull. The only thing that stops a bully is the fear that he may get his/ her apple kicked.
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Step 3
Be on the spot and aggressive with the school system. This boys mother went to the school on 7 different occasion and still the bullying continued. If you don't have an aggressive nature get a friend to come with you who does. The one thing the school doesn't want is a parent going off on them. My husband would tell my children's teachers, "I'm here to meet you but I'm not trying to be your friend because if something happens to my child I'm coming to see you!"
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Step 4
If the bullying is severe don't be afraid to report the children and the school system to the police. It is your responsibility to protect your child. No child should go to school in fear. Pay a visit to that bully' s house and talk to those parents. They will not want you to return once you let them know this is just a warning, I will press charges.
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Step 5
Enroll your child in a martial arts or boxing class. This will build their self esteem both mentally and physically. A bully won't mess with an aggressive child or a child they know will fight back.
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Step 6
Be a in your face type of parent. I remember the one tussle my son got in the other parent was just so passive about what his son did. My husband went to the parent meeting and told that parent the next time his child put his hands on my son he was coming to look for him. Believe there was not another incident. We teach our children to respect others and keep their hands to themselves. On the flip side a lot of parents don't. Bully' s usually are acting out because of a situation at home. The break down comes when there is no support at home or school. Then you are left with an angry child.
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Step 7
I dedicate this article to that young man Jaheem Herrer who took his own life at age 11 whose bully' s called him Gay and a Snitch and it is my prayer that we as parents will talk to these kids daily about the effects of bullying.
Comments
genius2b said
on 7/16/2009 I used to be bullied when I was a child. It can effect a child so much! Great article on how to help you child with bullying!
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HardworkinJudy said
on 7/2/2009 Unfortunately many children who are bullies learned it from their parents. Thank your for tackling this tough topic.
Alrady said
on 6/22/2009 Right on advice... KUDOS!
ginamichellesat said
on 6/16/2009 5 stars and recommend! Awesome article and topic!!
powerleg5 said
on 6/15/2009 That is sad. We had a bully problem with my son and I told him if he needs to unload on this kid then do it. He did one day, he had had enough and when the dust cleared the bully went out of his way to be nice to him. Funny how that works.