How to Successfully Date a Woman With Children

The woman is hot, and she has children. You're going for the gold; you're gonna DATE her! What do you have to do, to successfully date a woman with kids?

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. 
    
   Dating and kids

   Be honest with yourself, and with her. Do you have a felony in your past? Have you ever been charged with or convicted of sexual improprieties? And have those improprieties involved children? For this purpose, we define children as anyone under 18, so youthful indiscretions count. Tell her. She needs to know.

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   the kids

   Don't meet the kids too soon. Their mother might think it's time, but you know what your intentions are. If you're not serious, or if you're not sure, don't meet the kids. Spare them having to live through a revolving door of men coming in and out of their and their mother's lives.

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   Candy bribe

   When you do meet the kids, bring candy unless they're diabetic, and if they are, bring something else that's a treat. Kids love candy even if they don't love you. You're trying to create a positive attitude towards your presence, so bribery is an excellent fast track way to get there.

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   No hugging the kids

   Don't touch the kids. This means, don't hug, don't kiss, no physical contact at all, unless it's a hand shake. And don't touch their mom either. No smooching in front of the kids. It's just too creepy in the early stages of getting serious.

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   The children are watching

   Be aware that the kids are watching you like hawks. They may appear to be playing with their Legos or Barbie Dolls, but that's just the smoke screen. They are watching you. They're watching your body language, and your verbal language. If they even begin to sense that you have a mean bone in your body, or if you're a tiny bit verbally aggressive, this translates as abuse to the kids. No amount of candy will make up for kids being worried for their mom.

6. 
    
   dating a mother

   After you've dated mom a while and have met the kids, try going on a few family excursions. These are great because they allow you to become familiar with the family dynamic. You could go on a zoo picnic, or to a public building such as a museum or an aquarium. If your budget allows you could try a concert or a movie, or maybe just dinner at a family restaurant.

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   Single moms

   Never, ever, ever interfere when it comes to family drama. Do not attempt to take sides even if you have an opinion. Stay out of it. You're a guest here. You are not welcome to become involved. If matters turn violent, run and dial 911 at the same time, but never let anyone drag you into an altercation between family members.

8. 
    
   Dating

   When on a date, treat Mom like a woman. Romance her just as you would any single woman without kids. If she's interested in you, it's because she's a woman and you're a man. Be a gentleman, and treat her like a lady, and you'll reap the rewards of being in a relationship with a multifaceted multitasking woman, who knows how to juggle with the best of them. Dating a woman with children can be challenging, but ultimately may result in an experienced partner and a family. As grandma used to say: you could do worse.

[ruf1950]

on 9/29/2009 I must have done something right dating a woman with children; she married me :)! Your article is a home run, Tundranut. 5*****

[Dlaniger]

on 9/4/2009 Great article. It's often times so much easier for the men.

[sunnyglitter]

on 7/20/2009 Excellent article! And children definitely watch potential boyfriends like a hawk; I can vouch for this. My daughter notices EVERYTHING. 5*

[edieness]

on 6/2/2009 Well said 5*

[brians]

on 6/1/2009 I can relate to this one. Thank you. 5*