How to Prepare for an Imminent Divorce
Sometimes, despite your best efforts to fix your relationship, you may find yourself facing a divorce. You may experience a multitude of emotions, and while you have to deal with those emotions, you also have to prepare yourself for the process that is to follow. From separating assets and property to learning to stand on your own financially, preparing for an imminent divorce will help you to better respond to such a stressful event.
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Accept what is happening. Don't run from your emotions. Divorce is not a quick and easy process, and it will take some time for you to deal with what is going on and all of its implications. The first step in this process is acceptance that your relationship is over and then mental preparation for what's to come. You might find it helpful to work with a licensed counselor during this time to offer support as you move toward that final step of divorce.
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Consult with a divorce lawyer. Even if neither you nor your spouse has taken the step of filing, a divorce lawyer can still advise you on which steps to take if divorce is imminent. From separating yourself physically to preparing yourself financially, a divorce lawyer can walk you through the process for your specific situation and give you advice that will help you avoid roadblocks later in the process.
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Amass financial documents. According to the AdaptU website, if divorce is imminent, you should start to gather all of your financial paperwork, from bank and investment statements to pay stubs and household bills. During the initial phase of the divorce process, you will go through "discovery," where both sides will be required to give a accounting of their personal finances. It's better to be prepared for this process if you know you are headed for divorce court.
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Pull a copy of your credit report. Denote joint accounts with your spouse and debt that is your own. Determine what you can easily separate and which accounts you can restart in your own name. Your credit file will also give you a clear idea of how you and your spouse need to plan in terms of paying off joint debt, perhaps ahead of the divorce process.
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Consider potential custody arrangements if you have children. Talk to your spouse -- if you still have any kind of rapport -- and try to come to some agreement on this issue. If you don't, it will be a matter decided by the courts during the divorce proceedings. In order to try to maintain as much control over custody as possible, talk with your spouse about what's best for your children.
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