How to Not Be His Door Mat
Relationships require considerable work from both people involved. Couples must understand each other and communicate well to make for a happy, long-lasting partnership. It's not uncommon for one side to fall into the trap of being too easy to accommodate the other, making for a unsatisfying relationship. Here's how you can reverse this situation and stop being his door mat.
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Examine the dynamics of your relationship. Strong relationships are built on communication and understanding. Reflect on your history together. Judge how well each of you demonstrates these skills and determine which areas need work.
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Determine if you've become his door mat. In a healthy relationship, give and take comes from both sides. If you find you're constantly giving while he's always taking, you need to change the dynamics of the relationship.
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Identify the times when you have felt like a pushover. Compromise is a part of every strong relationship, and there are times when it's healthy for one side to give in to the other. Giving in to his wants and needs because they do not completely disregard your interests is fine. Giving in simply because you want to avoid conflict is not.
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Stand up for yourself. The dynamics of a long-standing relationship can be hard to change and making adjustments is a gradual process. If he insists his interests take precedence over yours, explain that you also have needs that must be fulfilled.
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Resolve to not back down from conflict. Don't give in if he still insists his desires come first. Remain resolute, explain that your needs are important to you and state that his unwillingness to compromise is unfair. He should understand that his actions affect how you feel and realize that he must accommodate the things that are important to you.
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Tips & Warnings
Listen to your partner. Good communication requires sincere listening as well as honest expression.
You should never feel physically threatened in a relationship. If you do, immediately remove yourself from the situation and seek the help of someone you trust.
