How to Get a Marriage Proposal

This is a guide for women who would like to marry their boyfriends

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Lots of guts
• A spine

1. First, you should let your boyfriend know around the time that you and he decide to date exclusively, that you would ultimately like to get married. This is NOT a marriage proposal, but it should be clear to your boyfriend that you see yourself being married, that it is one of your life goals, and that you will not be happy and satisfied with not being married.

2. Now that your boyfriend knows that you are a family/marriage oriented person, continue to date and enjoy your exclusive status.

3. After you feel he is some one you would like to marry, and he feels the same way, you should drop hints about the types of engagement rings you would like and the type of wedding you would like to have (traditional church, destination, elope to las vegas, justice of the peace, etc.)

4. The only readiness limitation to getting engaged at this point is saving up for a ring. Do not offer to pay for the ring, but offer to use your credit to purchase the ring. Indicate only rings that are realistic for him to save up for or afford the payments. If he only ever has $500 in his bank account, do not indicate a $5000 ring. It could take him several years to save for it. You don't want to make him feel inadequate or like a loser with respect to the ring. The goal is to get married, not acquire an expensive diamond.

5. If too much time passes without a proposal, and it has been too much time if you feel like you've been waiting forever and you feel underappreciated, you should tell your boyfriend that you need a marriage proposal and marriage to continue the relationship.

6. Take steps to break up if he does not propose. For instance, take a trip and do not invite him, do not renew your lease, pack up and move out if you live together, apply for a job out of town or get into a degree program in another city, and finally, go out on a date with some one else. Be prepared to follow through on the break up if your boyfriend does not propose. If he is willing to let you go, he was not the one for you and he did not view you as "the one." He was waiting/looking for something better, and so should you.

Tips & Warnings

• The upside of this strategy is that you don't spend extra time in a relationship that is not going to work out.
• Do not be mean or get an attitude about the lack of response from your boyfriend. This is NORMAL. There is nothing wrong with him, most men need a little pressure to commit.
• Show him you are serious not with your tone of voice, but your actions. If he sees you making plans without him, he will see that your relationship is headed towards dissolution without a proposal.
• Be prepared to lose your boyfriend, but remind yourself that you are keeping your hopes for marriage intact by using this strategy.

[jenng]

on 4/29/2009 Great article on how to get a marriage proposal 5*

[tachic]

on 4/19/2009 Good tips to get a wedding proposal. If all else fails, no problem with the girl asking the guy- seems to be the trend these days.