How to Ditch Toxic Parents
This is for anyone whose parents are abusive -- verbally, physically, or emotionally -- who needs to walk away from the parent/child relationship in order to gain full enjoyment of their adult lives
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Instructions
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First, if you are in touch with them, advise them that they are abusive and that you cannot continue to accept that. This should be a one-way conversation and no explanations should be given. They already know that their treatment of you is deplorable.
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Move, change your phone numbers, email, and otherwise make it difficult for them to find you. If this is impossible because of family member that you do need to keep in touch with, do not respond to ANY effort to contact you.
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If you cannot move, and it is required, take out a restraining order.
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Do not worry about them, wonder about them, or think about them at all. After all, they have not thought about your well-being all these years.
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Read the book Toxic Parents. Re-read this book whenever it is required to strengthen your resolve and remind yourself that cutting off contact was/is your only option for a adult life.
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Tips & Warnings
Adopt new "parents" if you can. Think of your in-laws, grandparents, or godparents.
Do NOT accept your parents back into your life unless they have demonstrated that they have turned over a new leaf, meaning they have stopped substance abuse or been in therapy for many years and made progress. Even if you accept them back, be prepared to be hurt again.
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doban
Apr 16, 2009
I decided at a young age that my parents were a product of their upbringing and did the best they knew how and needed my unconditional love. That may not work for everyone though. -
doban
Apr 16, 2009
I decided at a young age that my parents were a product of their upbringing and did the best they knew how and needed my unconditional love. That may not work for everyone though.
