How to Get A friend to Date You

This applies to those who are currently, or are trying to date a friend. Dating friends is different, because it is hard to separate friendship and dating. I've notice most people struggle in getting a friend to date them. It can be so hard to get the friend to date you, mainly because people go about it the wrong way. Actually being able to date a friend is quite easy, if you follow the steps properly. Not saying it's a guarantee hit no matter what, I can't literally predict each person's mind. However, I can help apply better techniques. The first good news is you are friends with them, so they at least like you as a person. That's a very good step to get out of the way. Liking is a good thing, not everyone likes everyone.

Things You'll Need

• your friend

Instructions

1. Understand that dating is different and changes everything.

   Friends dating one another is a complete different ball park. Different things happen and sometimes it's a bit strange at first. Especially if this is a long historical friendship. You are now not only their friend, but their partner. So everything you do now, you do with them. Communicate with each other and know this is still a friendship. The only difference is it's a lot closer and more dangerous. Each others emotions are exposed to getting hurt by the other. So talk and communicate to maintain on the same page.

2. Make them open up to you on a different level. Chances are if they're not opening up to it more, they might not be interested, or they never really thought about it. If they are saying things like "oh I just don't want to ruin our friendship", they are afraid of the possibility. They playing it safe. It's time to open up a new world for them.

3. Stop being just the friend. They've accepted your decency as a friend up to this point. If you're the one person they always depend on, always can talk about their problems with, they are taking this for granted. Just because they can open up to you, that doesn't mean they can be with you. This is where so many screw up, and assume this as well. You are playing right into the friend hand. Don't be so nice. I'm not saying be mean, but don't literally be, say, or tell them everything they want to hear. They are taking this for granted, which means they aren't going to want to jeopardize that at the same time. Be a bit more bold, blunt, and risky.

4. Make your stand. Be bold with them. Bold wins a lot with a person, and it opens something new up to them. Don't tell them everything they want to hear, but don't be mean either. Call them out sometimes when needed. Friends dating each other, comes with a different game plan. It requires getting some emotion, even a little drama out in the open sometimes.

   Don't be afraid to argue with them if needed, as long as the argument is valid and helpful. Don't argue to where they'll hate you, but maybe they get a little mad. This is emotion, emotion is good. Emotion is how people like one another beyond just friendship. People want someone who can be real with them. Show your strengths to them. Sometimes telling someone something they don't want to hear, at first might make them angry, but in the long run they'll appreciate this more. No one wants someone that's just going to say what they want to hear, or just do a lot of butt kissing. So it's good they are opening up, but don't just be that guy or girl, who is just a shoulder to cry on. Because that won't get you anywhere but friendship.

5. Make them see you differently. Don't be predictable anymore. Surprise them, a lot. When I say surprise, show them more sides, or ways to you that they've not seen before. Show them there's more to you than what meets the eye. One thing I've discovered, which is very difficult to get beyond just friendship, is if they feel they have you read like a book. That there's nothing more to you, so again, they are taking the decency you've given them for granted, and not wanting to waste it. They also don't seem to see any real difference between dating, and being a friend. That's where you have to show them, look, you don't know all there is about me. Get them more curious and interested. Basically they think of you as the safe bet. Don't be so safe, surprise them. Making someone curious, makes them interested. Obviously just being friends isn't getting them any of that.

6. Make sure you're not know as the nice guy, or girl.

   You know, a girl I wanted once, basically viewed me as nothing but that. It got me no where close to her, other than friendship. She once called me her non-gay best friend. Oh to this day, I laugh every time I remember that. She was right, because I played right into that role. I wanted her so bad, I went beyond nice. I did a lot of butt kissing, and it bored her to death. Nice guys do finish last. Nice guys in a girls mind, means they can't be truly dependent overall or exciting. Girls don't want bad guys. They want different, unique and exciting. If you feel you might be in that ball park, like I was, time to toughen up the friendship. This doesn't mean be a bad boy. Sometimes if he or she, has to call about a problem, don't always be there. Especially if you feel they're kind of using you, or taking you for granted. Don't pick the phone up, get them to feel a little more dependent on you. It's time you put them in their place a little. Make them miss you and a little more dependent on you.

7. Try to be more sensitive. This can be applied to guys, even girl that aren't very sensitive. Be a little more sensitive around them. Talk about things and feelings that are deep and private. Show the person, you aren't just someone for them to talk about all their problems with.

8. Try to avoid them and play hard-ball. This is for the ladies. One thing a guy loves, is to feel like they're the king of the world in a women's universe. Trust me, even if you don't think they are into you. If you think it's pretty obvious, or for a fact knows you want him more than just a friend. That you are a bit flirty and smile a lot, and laugh with him. If you do that a lot with this friend, he probably senses you want him pretty much. Here's how to spin the wheels, stop doing this all the time. Make them wonder if you've lost interest in you. Stop giving them a lot of attention. In fact even bring up another guy, mention that's he's cute or something. Don't make them feel like that big king of the universe any longer. See how he reacts. Guys hate being ignored.

   This girl was once so into me, and I just liked her as a friend. When she finally stopped giving me so much attention, I hated it so bad. Sometimes people take things for granted, so they don't know what they have until they feel it's gone. Especially if you're friends with them.

9. Make sure you have confidence. If you are always down around them, then this could also be why they aren't interested. There's no bigger turn on than confidence. Dating friends can be easy, if you use the right approach.

Tips & Warnings

• Play it cool

Resources

• Breakup with someone respectfully
• How to be romantic
• How to find the right guy
• How to kiss
• How to date a friends ex-lover