How to Win Every Argument

Discover the secrets of how to win every argument.

Tired of yelling and screaming in an argument just to end up losing? If you are like most people, you get into arguments all the time. Your arguments probably are over some of the most ridiculous subjects, such as whether or not you took out the trash or whose turn it is to walk the dog. Luckily, you don’t have to lose these arguments.

Here are a few tips on how to win every argument that you get into.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. Don’t attack. Attacking someone during an argument will only make them more defensive. The only thing that this will accomplish is the person not listening to you. When someone attacks you, just try to deflect it. By not reacting to their argument you can cause them to question their stance on the topic.

2. Stay focused on the person and their feelings, not yours. While this seems to be against every arguing technique you have ever heard, it works. Repeat their points back to them and how it makes them feel. People usually argue from an emotional standpoint. By reiterating what a person says, you will find that they become less defensive and more open to questioning their view. People like to feel like they have been heard and understood.

3. Don't try to be right but instead aim to win. You don’t have to be right to win an argument. All you have to do is show that you are being fair and have a stronger, more supported argument than the other side.

4. Live with resistance. You are bound to experience resistance when you argue. This is due to the other person believing that they can attack you until you either back down, or attack them back. Don’t get baited into these arguments. They are simply looking for an emotional response. Arguing against a person is who is emotional and irrational is pointless.
   
   Whether you are right or not doesn’t make any difference to the person arguing with you. Tell them to get therapy and move along. Ok, don’t do that but you get my point.

5. You now have more tools in your arsenal that will help you to win more arguments. Just remember not every battle is worth fighting, nor is every argument worth arguing over. For more advice on winning arguments check out the resources area. You will find a link to a great book on Amazon all about this subject.
   
   While you’re here, be sure to check out all of the great how to articles on eHow. You can also visit my profile to see more of my how to articles.

Resources

• How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Everyday

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on 5/9/2009 ...can't argue with your ideas on how to win every argument!