How to Choose a Marriage Counselor

Confronting a troubled marriage is the option many couples take to salvage their relationship. Although attempting to save a marriage is commendable, identifying and resolving marital issues can be an overwhelming and painful process. Marriage counselors can provide the support needed to overcome issues by providing objective opinions and professional advice. Choosing a marriage counselor appropriate for your situation can increase your chances for reconciliation.

Instructions

1. Examine credentials and specialty areas. Checking for current certifications helps ensure the marriage counselor has proven knowledge and skills. Although specific credential requirements vary by state and specialty area, it's important that a marriage counselor provide verifiable degree and practice information. Marriage counselors should possess degrees in mental health or social work from an approved source. Look for a marriage counselor who specializes in your individual situation to improve your chances of success. For example, if your problems stem from being in a blended family, a Marriage Family Child Counselor (MFCC) can better meet your needs.

2. Look at available session times. Asking about the frequency and duration of therapy sessions can narrow down your choices. Ensure that session times are easily accessible to avoid missing appointments either purposefully or accidentally. Don't let an appointment time that conflicts with work schedules be another reason for an argument.

3. Ask about current workload. Although marriage counselors routinely consult with multiple private practice clients, you don't want a marriage counselor with a packed schedule. There may even be reasons that after-hours contact is needed. Additional sessions may also be required to fully discuss and work through your marital problems.

4. Schedule in-person meetings with your top choices. Visit the office of each marriage counselor to learn more about their personalities and operating styles. Notice the waiting room flow and the friendliness of the support staff. A marriage counselor should readily answer questions about his practice philosophy and professional goals. Bring a note pad of questions to ensure that nervousness doesn't make you miss an important question.

5. Agree with your spouse. Stellar credentials and a successful track record won't make up for dislike of a marriage counselor. It's important that each spouse feels comfortable interacting with the chosen professional. Communication can be adversely affected by negative feelings about the person entrusted with your most private relationship details.

Tips & Warnings

• Although asking for reviews of marriage counselors can make you feel uncomfortable, doing so can help you make a more informed decision. Consider asking your pastor to serve as your marriage counselor to receive religious-based advice.

• Always ask about cancellation policies to avoid having to pay for unneeded or unwanted sessions.

Resources

• Marriage counseling credentials list