How to Write and Deliver a Eulogy

Giving a eulogy can be a difficult task for even the most experienced speakers.

If a friend or family member has died, you may be asked to deliver the eulogy at his funeral. A eulogy is a speech in praise of the deceased and serves as one of the most important elements in the funeral. The eulogy should highlight significant achievements, characteristics or moments in the deceased's life. Being chosen to give a person's eulogy is an honor, but this important responsibility can sometimes be difficult. There are several steps you can take to help you prepare for, write and deliver a memorable eulogy.

Instructions

The Writing

1. Create a list to begin writing your speech. List details to be in the eulogy. These can include awards, accomplishments, children and spouses and interests or hobbies. Include special memories you have of the person as well. Pick memories that describe the deceased's best qualities. For example, if he was known for his generosity, pick a memory where he helped you or someone else in a time of need.

2. Speak with friends and family members of the deceased. They may have had a different type of relationship with her than you did, and have information to include in the eulogy. Take notes on their input and add any significant milestones to your list.

3. Look for a theme to tie the pieces of the eulogy together. For example, if the deceased was known for always smiling, try to tie his happy outlook on life into your list of facts about her.

4. Write the body of eulogy. Include personal stories but avoid personal inside jokes that other funeral guests may not understand. Try to avoid mentioning her death and stick to important moments during her life. Slight humor is acceptable in eulogies.

5. Practice your eulogy in front of a mirror so you can hear how it sounds when read aloud. Make necessary changes based on this initial reading. Then, take the eulogy to a group of people who knew the deceased well, and read it aloud for them. Ask for input on the speech as well as any suggestions on additional information that should be added.

Delivery

1. Write out your speech in clear and easy to read font and bring it with your when you speak. Even if you don't think you will need to reference notes, having the speech in front of you can be helpful, as sometimes speakers are overcome with emotion when delivering a eulogy.

2. Dress appropriately for the occasion. It once was typical to wear black dress clothes, such as a suit or a dress, to a funeral. However, that has loosened so neutral colors are becoming common.

3. Bring tissues or a handkerchief with you to the lectern. While most funeral homes provide tissues, it's best to be prepared.

4. Take a deep breath and take as much time as you need to prepare yourself before you begin speaking.

5. Start your presentation by greeting the audience and giving salutations. Introduce yourself to everyone and explain your relationship to the deceased. Make sure to acknowledge the grieving family members.

Tips & Warnings

• Have a closing sentence prepared that you can deliver to end the speech abruptly if you find yourself overwhelmed.

• Don't exaggerate or fabricate things to make the deceased look like a better person.

• Practice until you are comfortable with the material you have written.

References

• Funeral Resources: How to Give a Eulogy