How to Think up Questions to Ask a Future Spouse (husband or wife)

If you are thinking about marrying someone, then you want to know as much about them as possible. A good way to learn about a future spouse is to think of questions to ask a future spouse that tell about the person's goals, aspirations, interests, background and more.

Thinking of questions to ask a future husband or a future wife can be difficult - you want to know so much, but how do you formulate your thoughts into questions?

What kind of questions do you ask a future spouse to learn the most about them? How can you put together questions to ask a future husband or wife without sounding dumb? Read more to find out.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Don't sound like a job interview - If you want to get together questions to ask a future spouse, the first rule is to make sure the questions sound natural and don't sound like a job interview with a potential boss. Nobody wants to be interviewed when going out with their future spouse.

2. Ask questions that fit in with the regular flow of conversation - Instead of thinking of questions to ask a future husband or wife, think of topics you would like to ask about. Then, as the conversation progresses, turn the topic into a question based on what is being talked about.
   
   For example, Let's say you are on a dinner date with your future spouse and you want to know what his/her mother is like. When the future spouse tells the waiter what (s)he wants to order, ask them if they used to eat that food as a kid and from there start asking questions about the person's mother.

3. Another strategy to thinking of questions to ask a future spouse is to ask questions that give you a general impression of the person, even if you don't care about the specific answer. For example, ask questions about your future husband or wife's job. See if they answer with positive things they like about their job or only talk negative. This could be a good indicator if they are generally an optimistic or pessimistic person.

4. Ask questions that bring out the future spouse's personality - For example, if you are waiting for a waiter in a restaurant to bring your food, ask your future spouse if (s)he thinks the waiter is especially slow tonight. Listen to the answer to get insight into how patient the person is.

5. One good type of question to ask a future spouse is the scenario type question. Questions such as "what would you do if...." or "how would you do..." are a good way to know how your future husband or wife plans on living their life and also a good way to feel out their thinking process.

6. Another question to ask a future spouse is what their childhood was like. This is a good way to find out if there are any skeletons in the closet.

7. Still more questions to ask are:
   - what are his/her goals
   - what are his/her dreams
   - what (s)he is looking for in a spouse
   - where (s)he would like to be in 5, 10 or 20 years down the road.
   
   Whatever questions you ask, just remember to make them naturally flow into the conversation.

Tips & Warnings

• Whatever you ask, make sure you sound natural. Don't turn a date into an interview!

[gerrie5044]

on 4/13/2009 Great article on asking questions to a future husband! You can never ask too many! :) 5* and rec