How to Meet Men Over 40
Whether you've spent the last 20 years searching for The One, or have recently re-entered the dating world, meeting men when you are over 40 can be a real challenge. The pool of eligible bachelors has shrunk drastically and the majority of participants fall into two categories: commitment-phobic macho he men and the battle scarred veterans of recently ended long-term relationships. The middle age dating scene is loaded with damaged goods. There are also a lot of older men who have learned from the mistakes of their past. They've established their careers and know what they want. They dream of finding love again and they want to do it right this time. So, how do you meet these men of minimal baggage? Read on to find out.
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Get rid of The List. You know the one. Created when you were 17, The List was originally designed to ensure you did not waste your valuable time dating men who were unlikely to be The One. It probably included items such as "must not live with mother" and "cannot wear the color green-- ever." Perhaps The List underwent a renovation in your 20s to include things like "must not have ex-wife or children." By the time you're in your 40s the pool of eligible men is fairly small as it is. It's time to let go of The List. At the very least, give it a makeover and be certain it only includes truly relevant items, such as, "makes me laugh" and "makes my pulse race."
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Go somewhere different. If you want to meet new people, your best bet is to go to a new place. Take up a hobby that is enjoyed by both genders, such as golf or bowling. Join a club or civic organization and get involved in your community. Take a class or attend a weekend workshop to meet people with similar interests. Volunteer to participate in charity events--you're bound to meet some nice and philanthropic potential suitors.
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Learn to flirt. Men can be, well, a bit thick when it comes to women. You need to make it clear you are flirting and not just being friendly. Have a few conversation-starting questions in mind--nothing heavy duty just interesting general topics. Make sure you maintain eye contact, radiating a sunny disposition. The picture you are painting is one of a woman who is life-enhancing and agreeable, not a heavy-duty drama queen.
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Give online dating a go. Many online services offer personality matching or incorporate search filters into your profile so you don't end up wading through thousands of ads posted by inappropriate partners. Getting to know someone online is a reasonably safe way to determine if you like him as a person before you jump into the dating pool with them.
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Make an effort to be more social. Instead of hanging out at home reading a book, go to the bookstore. Most stores offer reading areas with comfortable seating, great lighting and nearby coffee shops. If you're feeling more creative, browse the local art gallery, go to a poetry reading or go to a wine tasting. Check the local newspaper. There are bound to be small venues doing their utmost to bring people in.
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Tips & Warnings
If you're at a social event, have a drink or two, but don't get drunk. It's not only socially unacceptable at this point in your life, it's likely to scare off any man in the immediate vicinity, including the one who already has your number and has now decided not to call you.
Be careful, particularly when giving out information over the internet. Until you decide to meet in real life, you can never be sure who you've got on the other end. Be alrrt for any 'bad vibes' or clear signals that something isn't quite right.
