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Step 1
Avoid the blame game. When things get rough veer away from the popular game of having to find someone to blame. Even if it is someone's fault, calling attention to the fact will cause pain, not healing. Accept the facts and blame no one, not even yourself.
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Step 2
Communicate your needs. Notice the word needs. This is probably not the best time to insist on our wants. Get by with the minimum and look for ways to enjoy life anyway.
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Step 3
Enjoy cheap or free entertainment if your difficult times involve a lack of money. Go out for a glass of lemonade instead of a meal. Listen to the college orchestra instead of the city orchestra. Watch a movie on television and save the theater for future dates. Don't think about it as a sacrifice. Think of it as a balm.
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Step 4
Look into each other's eyes and declare your love and affection for one another. Be a support system. Let your spouse know how important they are to you and what they add to your life. Build up your spouse's self-concept.
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Step 5
Understand how difficult it is for your spouse when a job is lost. Don't always talk about what you are doing to help. That can make your spouse feel even worse, like they aren't doing their part. Just hunker down and do it without comment!
Comments
kristara said
on 7/27/2009 Great marital tips! 5*
cherry67 said
on 4/2/2009 great advice-
PhiMcRee said
on 4/2/2009 My firmest belief is never, ever go to bed angry with each other. Even if it means staying up all night, don't get into that bed mad at each other! Great stuff.
tb711 said
on 4/2/2009 Very good advice!
sonni57 said
on 4/2/2009 Good article on how to strengthen a marriage. It's not easy sometimes.