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Step 1
Recognize. The best way to understand what kind of friend you really are, is to recognize what qualities you offer. Sit down and write a list of all the great qualities you possess. Then write a second list of everything you wish you could change about your personality, character, etc. Once you see on paper the person YOU think YOU are, you will understand how others may see you. Be honest and never lie to yourself, that is just like lying to friends!
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Step 2
Come to terms. You need to come to terms with the person you truly are. There is no need to be the go to guy or gal, you are ONE person and ONE person only. Do not take on everyone and everything, it is okay to tell someone you just cannot manage their issues today. Guilt is natural and we all feel guilt if we think we have let a friend down, however, you will end up helping a friend out of guilt and sacrificing in the long run in order to do so.
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Step 3
How to tell you are soul friends. Make a list of everything, imaginable and unimaginable, you would do for your friend(s). Would you quit a job for a friend? Would you lose other friends to keep this friend? Usually keeping one true friend benefits than holding on to superficial friendships. Lastly, never compromise your relationship with the one person that matters most in your life, YOU. If you want to say no, say no. If you feel uncomfortable, voice it. Having a best friend is a magnificent thing, a relationship and bond that can hardly ever be broken, but in order to keep that bond, you need an honest, true relationship with yourself. Offer yourself to this person, let them know that no matter what happens, you trust them. TRUST.
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Step 4
Enjoy. Let them know you care. Gifts can be the smallest thing but mean the most. Write a poem, send a heart shaped lollipop! Love happens between all types of people and relationships. Love isn't just for lovers!
