How to Identify Stalking

Be aware of your surroundings at all times.

Stalking is not a small problem. It can happen to anyone. At least 3.4 million people in the United States are victims of stalking annually, estimated the U.S. Department of Justice in a 2009 study. A major step in controlling stalking behavior is the ability to recognize when you are being stalked. If you quickly recognize the actions of a stalker, you can respond appropriately and perhaps avoid an escalation to physical violence. As soon as you become aware of potential stalking behavior, keep a written record of any contact whatsoever with this person.

Instructions

1. Watch for any unwanted contact or pursuit that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. Phone calls at all hours of the day or night and anonymous calls in which the caller just hangs up are typical stalking behaviors.

2. Be attuned to repeated but seemingly casual meetings. A friend, an ex-partner or a stranger waiting, uninvited, outside your home or workplace is a typical stalking behavior.

3. Listen for threats, even heavily veiled ones, against you, your friends, your family members, your pets and your possessions. If you or your family members feel fearful as a result of these threats, stalking may be occurring.

4. Consider unwanted written messages and unexpected gifts as possible signs of stalking. Letters, email, flowers, packages and anonymous items are commonly sent by stalkers to their victims.

5. Be aware of defamation of character, another tool in the stalker's arsenal. A stalker may spread rumors about you in your social circle or post lies about you online.

6. Defend against the misuse of your personal information. Stalkers often use the Internet or search public records for information about their victims. Identity theft frequently occurs as a result of a stalking situation.

Tips & Warnings

• A stalker may demonstrate any or all of the common stalking behaviors.

• Learn the stalking and harassment laws in your state.

• Tell a trusted friend or a family member as soon as you suspect that stalking is occurring.

• Anyone can become the victim of a stalker.

• Remember 22% of stalking victims are men.

• Remember all stalkers are dangerous.

• If you suspect you are a victim of stalking, do not hesitate to contact the police and an attorney.

• Do not be ashamed to ask for help. Several excellent sources are listed below.

References

• U.S. Department of Justice: Stalking
• U.S. Department of Justice; Stalking Victimization in the United States; Katrina Baum, et al.; 2009