How to Kiss

This is an instructable on how to kiss. Kissing can be a hard thing to do until you get comfortable doing it, and while nothing can fully prepare you for a kiss, this how-to will explain some of the basics of kissing a partner and explore some simple kissing do's and don'ts.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• a partner
• the right atmosphere and moment of course
• a pair of nice soft lips lol.

1. Pre Kiss:
   The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own. If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.
   • eyes become soft and heavy
   • eye contact is made and sustained
   • head turns slightly
   • lips are licked or bitten
   • easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
   • your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors
   To give your partner the cue that you wish to kiss him or her, you can try one or a combination of these things.
   • soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth.
   • make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
   • find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner
   If you think you are picking up some of these signs, but are still unsure if the person wants to be kissed then there is nothing wrong with just simply asking your partner if a kiss would be all right.

2. The Kiss:
   It's time to do the real thing it should flow smoothly and come naturally. Here we go:
   • Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck . Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.
   
   • Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for them.
   
   • As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. You are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.
   
   • Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough

3. After the kiss:
   If you enjoyed the kiss show your partner that you liked it by smiling, holding their hand or a simply comment about how soft their lips are or good the kiss was.
   
   If you are going to kiss again keep things energized by maintaining physical contact with your partner even though you have pulled your lips away. For multiple kisses its ok to do the same thing over and over, but it's better to change things up a little bit. Here are some variables to think about modifying:
   • angle of approach
   • speed of kiss
   • length/passion of the kiss
   • lip positioning (The first kiss is often a dead on approach, but offsetting one set of lips either up, or down can lead to a nice interlocking kiss where one partner's lips are nestled within the "lip valley" of the other partner's lips.)
   • hand placement
   • body placement
   If you are done kissing for a little while stare into your partners eyes and enjoy what the two of you just shared. Also make small talk and compliment their kiss or them in general. This makes them relax and not feel awkward. Hopefully it will be the first of many kisses. The twinkle in your eyes as well as that cheesy smile on your face should make you feel like you are on top of the world.
   Good luck.

Tips & Warnings

• When planning to kiss. Do not lunge at the person making them feel uncomfortable or that your desperate.
• Make them feel special leading to the kiss not like that's all you want.
• Make sure the setting and timing is right or it can ruin the moment.
• Do not slobber all over the person's face when kissing. Out right nasty.
• When its the first kiss guys especially don't go for the home run, that just ruins it and makes the lady's feel like that's all you want and what is on your mind.
• Remember the kiss is meant for the one you love and care about. Its to show your feelings not to play games.
• When kissing or before make sure you have a clean fresh smelling mouth. Bad breath is such a huge turn off even if the kiss is amazing.

[kindalista]

on 11/30/2009 Thank you. I'm going to pass this along! 5* and rec.

[emediasuccess]

on 11/28/2009 Great article - you should offer a condensed version on a pocket card so when people are about to kiss they can refer to it while the other person's eyes are closed.
5*

[apple87jane]

on 11/20/2009 wow...Great Tips..I never know kissing need so much tips, Thanks!

[christmaszorro2]

on 11/10/2009 Great article, with interesting ideas! I rated you 5 stars and recommended you!!!!

[lilmisssundress]

on 11/9/2009 Nice!!! :-)