How to Find True Love

It is a question as old as life itself. How do I find true love? If you really want to know the answer to this question then be prepared to go on a journey of personal development.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• An open mind
• An open heart
• Willingness to change

1. 
   Love can be fleeting when it's sought after in the wrong manner.

   The first step to finding true love is to not seek it at all. I know that sounds crazy. How can you find something that you are not looking for? But that's just it. As long as you are looking, it will continue to evade you. Finding true love should not be your focus.

2. 
   If you are unhappy by yourself, you won't be happy with someone else.

   Focus on you. That's right! The key to finding true love is actually loving yourself. The problem is that most people don't do this. Too often we are looking for the other person to complete us. The truth of the matter is that you have to already be whole before you enter a relationship. Putting the responsibility for your happiness onto another person is unfair and unreasonable. Misery loves company so you would just be creating an unfortunate circumstance for your mate. You should be happy with yourself and by yourself before you can be happy with someone else.

3. 
   Participate in activities you enjoy and you might be surprised to find true love along the way.

   Develop yourself. Since you are focusing on you, why not work on making yourself whole and happy. Really get to know who you are and prepare yourself for the possibility of the future yet to come. Decide what type of mate you would like and then determine if you are "good enough" to attract that type of mate. You can't expect to attract someone who is unequally yoked. If you are on two different levels then your relationship most likely won't work out. Set goals. Go back to school, work on your career, stop smoking, lose that weight, update your wardrobe, organize your house and get your credit in order. Explore activities and hobbies you enjoy doing and do them. You just might find true love in the process.

4. Be confident. Focusing on your needs, goals, hopes and dreams will also build up your self-confidence. When you are confident in yourself, your abilities and your direction, you also become more attractive to others. Self-confidence can also build up your feelings of sexiness. Confident people can be a lot more outgoing, alluring and flirtatious thereby allowing themselves the opportunity to meet new people.

5. 
   Laughter really is the best medicine. Love and laugh.

   Have fun! Give yourself permission to smile. Take time for a little rest and relaxation when you need it and play hard. The more fun you have, the less stressed you will be and the more open you will be to the possibility of romance. People who are sad, depressed and have low self-esteem also have a low capacity to recognize true love. Remember to laugh so you can love.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't be afraid to take risks. Accept dates and go to a few parties. At the very least attend a networking event. Practice makes perfect.
• Online social networks can be a great place to meet new and interesting people.
• Always tell a friend or family member when going out with someone new. Provide them with a description and contact information of the person you are seeing as well as the intended location of your date. This is true for both men and women.

Resources

• Online Dating
• Get a Dating & Relationship Coach

[sonni57]

on 3/8/2009 Good advice on how to find true love.

[steveshoemaker]

on 3/8/2009 Great work full of truth for finding love great job.5* recommend

[Addonis]

on 3/7/2009 great work 5*GGTGG