How to Show Your Spouse You Love Them

Saying "I love you" a hundred times won't have the same effect on your spouse as a long backrub. Talk is cheap, but actions speak volumes. Here are some ideas for showing your spouse how you feel about them.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Touch. The impact of physical touch is one of the most communicative ways to show your spouse your true feelings. Give them a massage- even if that's not your forte. Rub their back, feet, neck, scalp, whatever they like the most.

2. Communicate. This is not the same as talking. Take time to slow your speech down and communicate true feelings. Instead of simply saying "I love you", try telling them the reasons why. Be as specific as possible. Reminisce about first dates, first kisses, etc. Talk about the way they make you feel.

3. Little acts of kindness. Any happily married person will tell you that the small things ARE the big things. So get up early and make breakfast. Fold the laundry and put it away before your spouse has a chance to. Take out the garbage without being asked. Pick up after yourself. Change the baby's diaper without offering to. Do all the little things without pointing out that you did them, and they'll notice.

4. Do something they want to do. If you usually watch romantic comedies, watch that action film you know they'd rather see. If you spend Sundays watching football, go out for a picnic instead. They'll be flattered you put their desires first. Don't be surprised when they reciprocate.

5. Write notes. Leave them all over your home, leave them in their lunch or briefcase, under their car wiper, anywhere they will find them. Don't be embarrassed about someone else finding them. You may inspire another couple to reconnect too!

6. Cuddle. Even if your arm falls asleep, or they sleep better on their stomach. Make time for cuddling every morning, and every night. There's just something about that warmth you can't replace with words.

[kittykat3]

on 3/17/2009 Good advice. 5*