Things You'll Need:
- Patience
- Love
- Kindness
- Trust
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Step 1
Have a good base relationship. It sounds like something ridiculous to even say, but it's necessary. You can't begin your long distance relationship on a suspicion of cheating or mistrust, or even barbed insults that are a little too serious.
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Step 2
Friends first, friends always. Remember why you got together in the first place. Always treat each other like you would a close relative - don't overstep the bounds of common courtesy. This doesn't mean to curtail your sexuality, but instead to take the time to appreciate each other, knowing that your time together is limited.
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Step 3
Trust and patience are key in a long distance relationship, because sometimes, you will take second place to whatever else is going on in your significant other's life. When you're free, they may be at work or in class. You may go days, hours, weeks without talking - not because you're angry at each other, but because someone loses their phone or their internet connection. You have to be willing to give your S.O the benefit of the doubt.
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Step 4
"Cute stuff" replaces physical intimacy. Picking up cute, daily habits can promote a different sort of intimacy. Things like challenging who loves who more, coming up with the most disgustingly cute nickname, or even just taking the time to say I love you - and mean it - can make the distance seem smaller, or not there at all.
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Step 5
Always plan ahead. Know when you're going to see each other next. Knowing that two weeks, or four months is the next time can make it easier for you on the nights that you miss your significant other. It also provides conversation fodder - figuring out what you'll do while your together, for example.
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Step 6
Keep your fights separate. Don't drag your friends into the disagreements that you have with your S.O. You will fight - and 9 times out of 10, it will be stupid. Talk it over with your S.O. instead of allowing your friends to decide whether or not your S.O. is 'worthy' of you anymore.
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Step 7
Constantly evaluate. Do you still love the person? Can you imagine your life without them? How about with someone else? Is what you're doing worth the time and effort? As long as you're still answering correctly, take the risk and stay with the one you love.
