How to Arrange Child Visitation After a Divorce
Arranging parent child visitations after a divorce can be difficult, especially if there is acrimony between the parents. Determining a schedule and arranging pickups and drop-offs can be particularly challenging. It is in the best interest of the child for her parents to work together to arrange a visitation schedule that not only allows adequate contact but also is done in a civil manner.
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Create a visitation schedule that provides both parents adequate time with their child. Divorce courts typically want parents to have roughly equal time with their child. When developing the schedule, consider your child's school and social activities, holidays, special events, vacations, and both of your work schedules.
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Follow the schedule closely. Children respond well to routine and benefit from knowing when they will be with each parent. Help your child create a calendar so he knows what days he will be with each parent.
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Select locations for dropping off and picking up your child. Ideally, you have come to an amicable agreement and can pick up or drop off at each other's homes. Otherwise, a neutral location should be selected.
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Don't discuss difficult topics during pickup and drop-off. Don't get into arguments with your ex during this time. It's not appropriate and can be very stressful for your child. On the other hand, make sure you communicate any issues about the child that your ex will need to know to provide appropriate care. Discuss any homework assignments and medication needs, whether your child has had a rough day, or if there a game or dance recital coming up.
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Tips & Warnings
If you and your ex cannot get along well enough to be civil during exchanges, you should utilize a visitation and exchange center through your local court.
Never withhold visitation from your child. She shouldn't be punished for your inability to handle the divorce.
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