How to Stop Toddler Tantrums

One of the most difficult behaviors that a parent has to deal with is temper tantrums. With the use of positive re-enforcement you can reduce and eliminate tantrums all together.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. When your child begins his or her tantrum first make sure they are in a safe place. If their tantrum could lead to them falling off something or hitting their head, you will want to move them to a safe area.

2. Determine what the cause was for the tantrum. Did the child not get what they wanted? Did the child become frustrated? If the answer is they're not getting what they wanted, then in a calm voice tell them "Sorry but you can not have ____". This lets the child know that in spite of the tantrum you have not changed your mind. If the child's reason for the tantrum is out of frustration, then in the same manner, let them know that if they ask for your help, you will be willing to help them.

3. The next step can be the hardest for the parent. Offer no more attention. Stay close for the child's safety, but offer no emotion. It's best not to even offer eye contact. When you are in a public place it is difficult to ignore the behavior, but remember if you offer attention, the child learns quickly how to get what they want in a public place. Stay calm and wait. If people stare let them stare, this is to benefit your child not them.

4. When the child starts to show a positive behavior then you can reward them with your positive attention. When the child is showing the desired behavior you are looking for, be sure to let them know that you are proud of there behavior.

5. Be sure to have others that are caring for the child follow the same routine. Be consistent and have a little patience. Soon you will begin to see less and less of the tantrums.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't use the excuse that the child is just tired. Tired or not toddlers still need guidance to behave appropriately.

Resources

• Parents are Welcome

[Siouxmix]

on 3/7/2009 great tips. keep writing!

[ellie42]

on 2/24/2009 any one with kids has to deal with this.

[paulsbabygirl]

on 2/19/2009 I am so glad that you posted this article It is so important for a parent to know how to deal with a tantrum It really is such a difficult behavior to deal with. Great article 5 stars

[SuzyQ74]

on 2/19/2009 Great tips. Especially ignoring the rude stares of people if the tantrum is thrown in public. Some of these work on pre-teen/teen tantrums too.