How to Deal with a Commitment Phobic Guy

Dragging him to the alter just DOESN'T work!

There is little more frustrating than to meet the man of your dreams, date him, only to find that he's reluctant to commit--even to a monogamous relationship! Before you start looking at what's wrong with you, you need to understand the thought processes of men.

Things You'll Need

• a desire to understand why men behave the way they do

Instructions

1. 1. Men crave challenges. If you appear to easily attainable, or start chasing him, he will find this a total turn off--if not at first, then eventually.

2. 2. Men are drawn to unpredictability. If he doesn't call you when he said he would, but finally calls, create a life that doesn't allow you to talk @ that time--tell him YOU'LL call him back, "I was just on my way out to the gym"..or to a lecture, or to meet a friend for lunch. It's not that you are lying. It's more like you really ARE busy and have an active life, that doesn't allow you to wait around for a call. Men find that independence attractive.

3. 3. Men may test your self respect, by being late, or even NOT showing up at all for a date. No drama! Calmly explain that you have understand that something might come up to preclude the date, but you'd appreciate as much notice as he can give you, so that you can take advantage of other opportunities, available to you at that time. If he's interested in you at all, this should get his attention.

4. 4. The more trepidation a guy shows toward commitment, the slower you need to go in letting him get there. Baby steps and patience are the key. If that is not your style, back away, because that's what it will take for him to commit.

Tips & Warnings

• If you have a "life plan" and know when you want to accomplish certain goals, ...this isn't the guy for you.

• If you are willing and able to let life take you down whatever path it does, you have the patience to deal with this kind of guy.

• Pressure=panic=pull away