How to be Tactful with Your Matchmaker After a Bad Blind Date

If you've ever been set up on a blind date by a friend, family member, or family member of the date, you know how tough it can be to relay the news that it didn't go well. Usually, the matchmaker is personally invested in at least one party, and perhaps both. In this article, I will explain how to be as honest as possible with your matchmaker without hurting anyone's feelings.

Things You'll Need

• Time to think of exactly what you'd like to say.
• Tact.

Instructions

1. First, you'll need to think of the main reasons why you felt that you were not compatible. Was it something that the person cannot change, such as religious beliefs? If so, being completely honest with your matchmaker would be the best way to go, and nobody would fault you for this type of mismatch.

2. If the reason were entirely different, say, you were not at all attracted to the person, this is where you have to get creative. If the matchmaker calls you to see how it went, politely let he or she know that even though you had a great time with their friend/family member, you did not feel that you "clicked." Go on to say that you do wish them all the best in their future dating life, and you know that they will find someone wonderful. Be very enthusiastic so that the matchmaker will feel your sincerity.

3. If your matchmaker is going on a double date with you and the blind date, and you know right away after you meet the person that you are not interested, try to have fun, but treat the person like a friend. You can still use the same rule above for telling the matchmaker how you feel at a later time. People on first dates are usually a little nervous, so the matchmaker will most likely forgive you for any atypical behavior (such as quietness).

4. Watch shows like "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette" for tips. People have a very deep-seated need to know why they are being ruled out, and the people on these shows who are doing the eliminating are pros at giving kind, positive reasons. Regardless of how you feel about the person deep down, it is important to be tactful in order to preserve your connection to the matchmaker as well as to not hurt the blind date's self esteem.

Tips & Warnings

• If the blind date does something stupid or awful, it is wise not to tell the matchmaker if they are closer with that person than they are with you. Information could get back to them in a hurry that will only hurt the other party's feelings.

• Be extra careful when dating a family member of your friend. Blood is thicker than water, they say.