How to Get Married the Second Time

Second marriage ceremonies are no longer bound by the restrictions they once were. Go contemporary or ultratraditional, understated or glamorous. The choices are yours.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Wedding Invitations
• Wedding Gowns
• Wedding Planner Book
• Flowers
• Wedding Albums
• Wedding Cakes
• Wedding Bands
• Catering Services
• Live Band And DJ Rentals

1. Announce the wedding first to your children, then to your parents, your ex-spouse (and his or her parents, if you have children from your previous marriage) and friends and family.

2. Consider the possibilities - this could be the wedding you have always wanted. For instance, if you went the traditional route the first time, opt for something bolder and flashier; if you have already experienced the intimate reception, how about throwing a grand ball?

3. If you're the bride, wear any color or length dress you choose - white is no longer just for first-time brides.

4. Choose any traditions from a first-time wedding that you desire. A second-time bride can still share a first dance and the cake cutting with her new husband, toss garters and throw bouquets.

5. Include the children and make them feel part of the new marriage. Give them special roles in the wedding, such as greeting guests at the door, escorting the bride down the aisle or reading scripture.

6. Invite your ex-spouse if you want to, as long as your partner is comfortable with it.

Tips & Warnings

• Be sensitive to differing expectations if it's a first-time wedding for one of you.
• Kids can join in the vows, accepting their new siblings or family. However, respect their feelings if they don't want to participate.
• The veil and train are in general still reserved for first-time brides. A hat or a delicately jeweled hair band are perfect alternatives.

[mrsdel2008]

on 7/31/2007 Great idea having the kids light the unity candle with bride and groom Thanks. Please tell your ex spouse and children, my daughter and I found out while watching the news OUCH! That really hurt my daughter. Three years later and she still talks about her pain. She let him know and he wants to be invited. His will be the first invite out! ;)

on 7/13/2006 My ex-husband got married last summer and even though our daughter attended, she never told me. My ex and I had always been good friends after the divorce. I found out by getting one of the nastiest letters I have ever gotten from his new wife (and I had no idea he was married). So, please, if you're an ex planning to be married, tell your ex-spouse personally. It's a lot less painful.

on 11/22/2005 One tip to include older children in the ceremony is in the unity candle lighting. If the child is old enough have him/her hold your candle with you as you light the unity candle with your new spouse. This can signify the unity of your new family.

on 11/22/2005 Including the child of a new spouse can be very meaningful, especially to the child. One way of doing this is to order a Family Medallion, usually in the form of a necklace or bracelet. Search for one of the various web sites.

on 11/22/2005 If you don't feel comfortable having your father "give you away," consider being escorted down the aisle by your children. Or have your future husband meet you halfway and walk to the altar together.